My active 3 year old daughter seem obsessed with the opposite sex

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When my daughter was in preschool, her best friend was a boy. She even made me invite him to her birthday even though it was all girls birthday. Once she started Kindergarten it is all about her girl friends now and boys are her enemies! I think it is good that your daughter can get along with boys. She will grow up to have many friends on both sides.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/15/2013

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And don't let hubby start pushing gender types...LOL...

I always had more fun playing "boy" games than "girl" ones...LOL...

and here I am, a momma, love to sew, cook, etc. Tell him not to worry about the boy/girl separation until puberty hits! Then he can worry all he wants!

You're doing fine, Shavone!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/15/2013

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but here's the deal. She doesn't WANT to play with girls right now. Right now, boys have cooler toys (she thinks), or boys have more fun games...or whatever. She isn't in to what the girls are, so she doesn't play with them.

And I fail to see the problem with her playing more with boys than with girls.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/15/2013

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So, you want your kid to only play with kids of the same sex?

Discriminate much?

You say you don't want it to get out of control. What is getting out of control?

FYI...your kid is going to play with those kids that she enjoys, whether they be male or female. I (a woman) had 1 female friend to every 5 male friends when I was growing up. Didn't make me less "ladylike", didn't make me a dyke, didn't turn me into a slut either. But I did learn that, when looking for a true honest friendship, one should NOT look towards most women...

Rhonda Jean - posted on 10/14/2013

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She seems a little too young for sexual interests. Perhaps it is just being curious. In what ways does she show this obsession ? Have you considered getting a pet to keep her occupied ? Not yet being of school age, she may just be looking for a way to express her emotions.

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Helen - posted on 10/18/2013

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My daughter preferred boys' games such as looking for ants and rocks and running around instead of the girls' doll play and colouring in. She mostly played with the boys and was often the only girl at boys' parties. This lasted till she was in her mid teens and did her no harm at all. She has lots of girlfriends now, a husband she loves and is awaiting the birth of her second child. What's more she is very bright and a highly paid professional.

If your daughter is not behaving inappropriately, and this is unlikely unless she has been sexually abused, let her choose her own playmates and stop worrying.

Shavone - posted on 10/15/2013

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That's what i was trying to tell him, but men will be men when it comes to daddy's little girl. Lol Thanks for your advice i really appreciate it Shawnn.

Shavone - posted on 10/15/2013

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I don't know if it's a problem that's why i am on here asking for advice. I see your point and i will respect your opinion. I didn't see it as problem until my husband made a big issue out of it. At this point i will let my daughter with who she wants to play with, she is only 3 years old and playing with boys her age is harmless. Thanks for your advice Shawnn

Shavone - posted on 10/15/2013

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FYI Shawnn lively, No i am not discriminating i would like for her to play with girls as well as boys. She can play with boys but she also needs to play with girls. And when i say i don't want it to get out of control i mean i don't want her thinking something is wrong with playing with girls. Sorry if you were confused by what i said.

Shavone - posted on 10/15/2013

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She is not obsessed in a sexual way she just loves to play with boys(one in particular) at school. I tell her to play with the girls (at times she does play with girls mostly boys) she says she don't like girls she like boys. It seems harmless but i don't want it to get out of control. So by me volunteering at her school i separate her from boys a make her play with the girls..

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