My adopted son is asking " Was I in your tummy" not sure what to say.
âv^âv^ââ¥ - posted on 07/06/2011
I'd go along the lines of an age appropriate response that can grow into a full truth later.
Personally, I'd tell him he didn't grow in my tummy and that not everyone can have babies grow in their tummies because of health reasons. Tell him things don't always work out, but there are many ways people help other people in order for people to have babies. If he gets confused, I'd explain that sometimes other people carry babies for other people. But that it doesn't mean you aren't his mom. People carry babies for others so that they can help them love them. Someone helped you guys grow him, so that you are able to be his mom. That you are his mom, and you love him.
Hopefully something along those lines would explain it to him. Then later on you can tell him more about adoption, surrogacy and pregnancy.
Jenn - posted on 07/06/2011
I would give him an age appropriate answer. How much of the truth can he answer? If he asks again, certainly address it as honestly as you can without making him too confused or fearful. The truth is the only way to go, but only as he can handle and understand it.
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