My almost 5 year old tells me everything..how to make him stop

Liz - posted on 09/26/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My child is very intelligent and well behaved..I must say..he's being home schooled and is only child. My husband and I are going mad because he tells us every single act he does..and he tells us BOTH! Even if we are right next to each other...example. mom I threw a fart..did you like it? I reply"No. Stop it!...dad, I threw a fart..ect..we tell him we hear him and that he doesn't have to repeat himself..constantly...
I try to tell him to stop talking..he had to tell me each little thing he does...even if it's not a big deal...and I always have to say ok after the sentence..like if he makes sure I'm listening...I'm not even going into the questions...like why....that's another subject.
I think it's a phase buy how can I get it to stop I've tried everything we are both going crazy.
I do speak on the phone from home allot ..I work from home and he needs attention especially when I'm on the phone...even if his dad is with him..we both work from home. So when I'm on the phone he's with daddy, etc. We are always I mean always with him...I don't think he should feel at all that we don't hear, listen, understand or give him time...what the heck is In that developing brain of his?

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Liz - posted on 10/04/2015

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Thank you ladies for the feedback. I have tried every single thing that you guys have mentioned. Now every single time he says something like for example he is watching TV he wants to share on what's going on on the episode he explains what's going on and then he says ..okay mom?( until I say OK) and if I don't say okay hes starts repeating himself until I do say it and then he tells his father the same thing until he says OK. So now because I have used up all my saliva I am trying to to do a thumbs up gesture instead of saying okay all the time I am already oked out...lol
I don't know what to think I assume it is because he wants to make sure that we're paying attention to him and that we look at him when we talk to him because he does look at our faces and our eyes to see if we looking at him I do understand that in these times with phones and tablets and iPads and TV and everything that it can get very stimulating for both kids and parents to be connected to something all the time and specially since we work at home. his need is a one-on-one no electronic communication. so what I'm going to try to do is... I'm going to try to limit even more the electronics this week and see how it goes. It will be challenging because I am on the phone a lot and I don't have a specific time frame to be on the phone and the computer during the day so let's proceed with this challenge. Bring it ! Lol Wish me luck.

Teresa - posted on 10/01/2015

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Hi Liz, communication is a very important skill, and of course you want your little boy to communicate well. So making it clear what is appropriate communication and what is not can have a positive outcome in everyday situations when you and your husband are not there to supervise his responses.

Its important to make it obvious to your son in your response what is appropriate and what is not, the fart question would be a inappropriate question and it is ok to let him no this is not acceptable to say to adults, if you say I hear you and its not very nice to say that if he asks why just say its very rude and in future please don't say that to me or repeat the question to your dad. It may be an idea to have 'communication games' with your son where you are your son and he becomes mummy or daddy, and you say the things he says and keep repeating it until he see's how annoying or inappropriate it is and ask if he sees how it can upset you and daddy to keep doing this. Also the 'spoon game is quite a nice game for children, if he feels he has something important to say he should hand you or his dad a spoon ( example large wooden kitchen spoon), and when you have the spoon you have to stop what your doing and listen, however he also has to do the same when you hand him the spoon. Also the 'traffic light spots' for when you are on the phone you have three spots big enough for him to stand on, when you are on the phone put the spots on the floor ,if he wants to talk to you he must first indicate this to you by standing quietly in the green spot and count to ten to himself, then he can move into the 'amber spot,' he must again count to ten, then he moves into the red spot, and again count to ten, this gives you time to talk on the phone but importantly is a starting block onto which he can learn to wait while your on the phone, as his age grows so does the number he counts to which increases his learning ability to understand there are times when he will have to wait to speak to you. You can 'play practice this with a toy phone until he fully understand the ground rules. Hope this helps good luck !

Raye - posted on 09/28/2015

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My sister's kids would always interrupt her when she was on the phone, and she continued to let them. it drove me nuts every time I tried to talk to her. Her step-daughter once bit my mom, because my mom was on the phone and not giving the girl attention. You need to make him realize that there are times that require him to be quiet and how to act when he's not getting attention. I like Sarah's comment about holding a hand as a signal, and patiently waiting until you can ask what's the matter. It's conditioning, and it will take time and patience.

Sarah - posted on 09/26/2015

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We told our daughter that our ears were tired and so no talking at all for 30 minutes, then she could fill us in. That helped a bit All of my kids would interrupt me on the phone and it made me bonkers. The rule for that was, if it is a true emergency, like you are on fire, then you can interrupt. If it was important, you spilled something, you can hold my hand as a signal you need my attention, this worked well when speaking with another adult in person. Then I could wait for a pause in my conversation and see what my child needed. It's tough and it will get better. I hope!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/26/2015

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Mine were both that way, and there are times still that they will think they need to reiterate or repeat everything to both of us...and they're 18 & 21!
I got to a point that, if I wanted to watch a specific movie or something, I'd wait until they weren't around so that I wouldn't get the constant commentary...Nothing like watching Toy Story with a running narrative...LOL
Gently remind him that when you and dad are together, he needn't repeat himself, and then when he gets to that point where you need quiet time, suggest that his stuffed animals and toys are anxious to hear his story.

Dove - posted on 09/26/2015

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lol Good luck... My son (7.5 years old) once talked for 13 hours nonstop... I learned a long time ago to tune some of it out or I would be completely insane by now. You can try telling him you need some quiet time and space and to go talk in his room (especially if he has some stuffed animals or something to talk to), but if you home school and work from home... it sounds like you may have a bit too much togetherness and need a break.

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