My angel was sent to heaven

Velosh - posted on 01/18/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have been married for two years now and when I found out that I was pregnant ,it was the happiest day of our life. I never wanted anything more as this was all I dreamt of. I gave birth on the 30/10/2012 to an angel, my baby boy was the cutest angel i have ever seen. He was born with no complications. That day I saw him it was like I saw God on earth. Later that night my baby slept and never awoke, he passed away that very night. My life just became a living hell, I wanted my boy so badly. What did I do to deserve this punishment. As days went by I tried to see a positive side but just could not. Two months later I would sit and cry hoping I could fix this. My husband helped me so much through this. Its now 3 months and i awake each morning telling myself that God's plan was different to mine. And he knows whats best. There are days when I am angry with everything and keep asking God what wrong could I have done. I dont know how i will live my life my here. But the one thing I know is I can never forget my angel. People ask me to forget what happend and live , but how can I live with this heavy pain.


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Karen - posted on 01/18/2013




Me and my husband struggled for 12 years to have my son. He is invitro. I was pregnant with triplets. The end of my first trimester, I miscarried identical twins. That day is a huge blur to me. I still wonder sometimes what they would be like. I do feel your pain. I am very blessed to have my son and love him with all my heart. 2 1/2 years ago he started having seizures and now only having 4, he still struggles with every day life. I do everything I can for him and now as a parent of a special needs child, I have to look at things in a different perspective. I wanted more kids and with IVF so expensive, and my son at the time was almost 6, we decided to look other ways to expanding our family. I am now a foster parent in the process of adopting a 4 yr old girl and a 11 year old boy. They have been in our family just like they have always belonged with us for 1 year and 9 months. My son who is 9 1/2 adjusted better than can be explained. He really looks up to my 11 year old. Both of the foster kids had clubfoot when they were born and surgery done. The little girl came with us at 2 1/2 with a brace on her foot and slept in night braces. Both of them have had a second surgery because of the clubfoot. The little girl is struggling after hers and even went through therapy. I also took care of a child that was almost 3 and could not even sit, walk, talk, etc. He had a chromosome disorder but should have been able to do more. The parents just didn't work with him. We had him for two months and he could scoot backwards, sit up from a lying down position, sit up for long periods of time, and even able to feed himself. He is now back with his parents and is doing great. I believe that they just needed to see he was capable of so much more. He could also say momma and imitate sounds before he left. They now take him places where before they kept him inside all the time. It is funny because some of them at the foster agency in talking, says we are the special needs household. I would not change my life at all. Sure, we all wish things would have been a little different from time to time but it is what we do about our lives that defines who we are. God blessed me with my son and if I would have had triplets, The chances of survival and full term with them having no health complications, was unlikely. My son was full term at only 5 lbs 12 ounces. imagine 3. Hang in there. God knows what he is doing and have faith in him. Live life to the fullest. Good luck in the future!

Holly - posted on 01/18/2013




you can NEVER get over it.... I have not felt this pain, but i still as i sit here typing this response i am sobbing... the pain you must be feeling is so deep it spills out to me even. all the planning and waiting, falling in love and anticipating you went through to have this love ripped out of your heart.... its not fair, and it never will be. your baby must have been one of those special ones that God couldn't wait another day to have back with him. I recommend you celebrate this baby, and NEVER forget him, celebrate his birthday, keep his clothes that he wore and put them in a frame. if you took any pictures put them on the wall... don't let your memories of him disappear.

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