Natalie - posted on 08/05/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
Hi there, I have been on here previously to tell everyone about my tragic loss.
My baby boy was born on the 20th of June 2012, wasnt breathing and died of birth asphixia. He died on the 27th of June 2012.
Since his death everyone was saying "We are here if you need us!" or "Dont suffer in silence!" I always said to them, thank you for your kind words and yes we will need you, when everything has gone silent after the funeral.
He was buried on the 9th of July and as far as funerals go, he had a fantastic send off, we organised everything ourselves from start to finish.
After his funeral we were still quite numb and our hardest days have been in the last 3 weeks or so, were we have started on the road of grieving.
My side of the family are really supportive, my sister rings me everyday and so does my mum, as Im finding it helps to speak about it all, that seems to be getting me through each day.
My husbands family on the other hand, seem to have just forgotton, his mum and dad have been good, but his brothers and sisters have ignored our son has ever exsisted.
My husbands, brother and wife are expecting too and she keeps going on facebook and writing how excited she is and that her baby is fine and that she is bored of being pregnant and cant wait to be able to have a beer or two. His neice has recently had a baby and keeps putting on how beautiful her boy is and that nothing else matters in the world. If the shoe was on the other foot, I wouldnt put those kind of comments, Ive personally been getting angry and have come off facebook, as those people just dont seem to be considerate.
None of the family acknowledge what has happened to us and everytime we see them, they never bring it up or even ask how we are. Im even worried about seeing his brothers baby when its born, as I dont want them to rub it in my face.
Im getting mad at each and every one of them and cant understand why they arnt supporting my husband. What do I do and is this feeling normal??