My Baby Ian Got Taken....

Meredith - posted on 04/10/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Hi Everyone!!! Look forward to having a great friendship with all of you. I sorry I have to start out with something sad!!
My Baby Got taken from me in the hospital. I have epilepsy and DCF is saying the overnight didn't go well. As far as i'm concerned, it didn't go well because of a fire alarm and strobe light went off in my room. I called the nurse to come in to make sure my baby would be fine while I tried to cover my eyes with the blindfold that i asked the nurse to bring; but it did no good. the light was too bright. I started to get a horrible migraine and foam in my mouth. I was close to having a seizure. Once the strobe stopped the migraine and foam went away after 30 minutes, but i was exhausted like a had a seizure. Within the 24 hour period, my baby got taken the same day! my civil rights have been taken from me. DCF is using my epilepsy against me. Has anyone else had trouble with child custody because of epilepsy? I just want to know i'm not alone in this.

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Sarah - posted on 04/13/2015

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This whole story is sketchy. I worked in the very setting you were in and often took care of mothers with seizure disorders. You are saying the strobe from the fire alarm caused you to enter into a pre-seizure state? You requested a blindfold? Nonsense, you'd have put the pillow over your eyes, or left the room with the baby. The fire alarms don't just randomly ring in a hospital, and the strobes are in the hallway. If you have gone decade without a seizure and only had pre-seizure activity, then what the concern? Where is the father or your own family, who could step in to stay with you or take the baby? If they called DCFS, then they are also obligated to call the DMV and have your license suspended. I am sorry if you truly lost your child, but your story makes no sense.

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River - posted on 04/14/2015

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It is very sketchy. They don't just do fire drills in hospitals. Least none I've heard of. So it would have had to be an actual fire. Also, why didn't you put the blanket or pillow over your eyes? The strobe lights would have been in the hallway not your room. What are you going to do if you're at home alone with the baby and the power starts going out causing the light in the house to flicker a bunch? What if you have a seizure while holding the child and no one is around the help? Don't say it'll never happen. it very well could.

Raye - posted on 04/13/2015

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If they want to check the house again, why not let them? If it cleared the first time, it should clear again. If you get all pissy with them and make them provide a warrant, it won't help your situation. It will prolong the investigation while they get the warrant (assuming they even proceed to that), and it will look like you have something to hide. Be cooperative.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/13/2015

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Agree with Jodi & Michelle.

First of all, having and caring for a baby is not a 'civil' right.
Secondly, if you were in the middle of a threatening medical condition, it is the JOB of the caregivers to remove the child until you are safely able to care for the child.
Third: we don't know the entire story. from what you've said here, DCF is only performing the duties they are supposed to: ensuring the safety of a child.

Trisha - posted on 04/13/2015

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This is really upsetting to hear about. I do hope you get this rectified sooner rather than later. If everything is related to your illness, than speaking to your regular family doctor and discussing the situation with the authorities may help.
My aunt has epilipsy, and under stressful situations it rears its head more regularly. I don't think what they did was right, regarding taking your child because of your seizure, but there is no point in railing about what was done, just trying to fix the situation. Take every step forward you can to get your baby back to you. You may want to have someone (a family member) stay with you for the first few weeks of having your baby, and present this as an option until your dr clears you? I have no idea how this works, but wish you luck.

Michelle - posted on 04/12/2015

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I hope she didn't call you a troll Jodi, you're anything but.
Without knowing who called DCF or their full reasons for taking the child (we are just hearing the Mother's side) then we don't know the full story. There are always many sides to a story and DCF would have good reasons for what they did.
The OP needs to get a lawyer and discuss it with her case worker.

Jodi - posted on 04/11/2015

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I'm sorry, Becky, are you calling me a troll? Just because I suggested that DCF possibly had to remove the baby because of safety concerns until it was further investigated? That they didn't do it because of her disability but because there WAS actually an incident that was of concern?

Becky - posted on 04/11/2015

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I would call a lawyer this doesn't seem right. I bet the nurse called them. It is the DFC job to investigate every call they get but this seems a bit off to remove your child. If it were me I would get a lawyer. People with seizure disorders have children all the time and they are just as safe to be parents to those who don't have them. Don't mind the trolls on this sight. You did the right thing by calling the nurse and attempting to prevent the attack. At least call a lawyer for the free advice, I'm sorry this happen to you.

Jodi - posted on 04/11/2015

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You almost had a seizure while you were in hospital with your baby, and you called the nurse because you couldn't look after your child. You have to understand that the authorities need to investigate their concerns for your child's safety. If this were to happen when they let you go home, there are very real safety concerns for the baby. They aren't discriminating against your medical condition, and they haven't taken the child because of your disability. They took the child because you had an immediate medical situation that could have put your child at risk. They have to go through the process again because they have had a report concerning the child's safety.It's part of the process for their duty of care. Let's say they chose NOT to investigate and this happened again next week and your child ended up hurt because of it..........

Meredith - posted on 04/11/2015

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Was my child safe with me?!!!! I do not normally have seizure activity normally. I have no strobes in my apartment and i am very well controlled with my medications. I have not had a seizure in well over a decade. DCF in trying to say because of my cognitive abilities they have my child and that is an attack on my medical condition because my meds. slow down the brain so i don't have a seizure and in turn slow down my thought processes, which is a side effect of my meds. By law according to the ada of 1990, they can't take my kid because of the disability, not that i consider my medical to be much of a disability. I'm well controlled and can drive a car and take care of a child as good as anyone else.
DCF already checked out my home and said it was good. Now I got them wanting to check my home again this monday coming and i don't think that has to be done, because it was already done. and by right i don't have to let them look at my home without a warrent. I don't have seizures everyday. I'm well controlled. There was no good reason to take my baby ian from me. DCF is assuming things about me instead of just talking to me and wasting the courts time.

Jodi - posted on 04/10/2015

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I'm going to ask you this one question.....was this child safe with you? Think about when you go home. If you are this prone to seizures, is your child safe with you? Do you have someone else who can be there ALL THE TIME to help you care for the child? This is not about taking away your civil rights, but ensuring your child is safe. Clearly, at that point in time, your child was not safe, and before they return your child, they need to make sure that this won't be repeated.

I do understand your pain to an extent. For the first days of my daughter's life I was not allowed near her except to feed her, as she was born underweight and with concerning health issues. It was incredibly painful, but I had to consider her best interests, not my own.

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