my baby is 4 months old. Trying to get pregnant again but the last 2 months havnt worked . Is there any reason for this?


Sherri - posted on 05/25/2011




Ya you haven't gotten pregnant because you just had a baby and your body is still recuperating from your first pregnancy. Usually your body takes 6mo's for your cycle to return to normal. So you may have a little while to wait before your body is ready to handle another pregnancy.

Charlotte - posted on 05/26/2011




Why would you want to have another baby so soon. Just because your children are close in age will not make them close. Me and my brother are 16 months apart and we fought our whole childhood. Your other child needs time to be a baby with just you. He/she will not understand why mommy can't play right now, because mommy is busy with other baby. My kids are well spaced out, I think it is better that way, my oldest is 13, then 6, and 4months. Even with the gap the 13 and the 6 year old do not get along, but the 6 year old thinks her 4month old sister is great.

Kate CP - posted on 05/25/2011




I think, Donna, this is God's way of telling you that you shouldn't have babies this close in age. If it was supposed to happen it would happen more often. It's rather rare to get pregnant so soon after having a baby. It CAN happen, but it's not common.

Kate CP - posted on 05/25/2011




Yea, it's too early to start trying for a baby. Your body needs to recuperate.

Why in God's name are you wanting to get pregnant already?!


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Jessica - posted on 05/28/2011




if it is meant to happen it will happen. Why rush things anyway. Take this time to enjoy the baby you have. It will happen in its own time.

Sarah - posted on 05/27/2011




There's a lady in my playgroup with "Irish Twins." The first was born in Jan 2010 & the next was born in Dec 2010. I don't see how she does it with her kids so close together in age.

Anyway, my only advice would be to just have patience. It's only been 2 months since you started trying. Your body might need more time to heal from your last pregnancy. I know most professionals recommend waiting for several months, maybe even a year? after given birth before trying for the next one. I wouldn't rush it, but that's just me. My son is 20 months old & I'm still not ready for another one lol.

Michelle - posted on 05/27/2011




Your body may not be ready.. Are u up for the challenge. I have a 1yr old and a 3 1/2 wk old and it is tough. Remeber sometimes not trying is when something happens. Good Luck

Rachelle - posted on 05/26/2011




I got pregnant when my second child was only a month old. So there are 10 months between my second and third child. If you think you can handle them being this close then have patience and keep trying but I`m gonna tell you it`s a lot to handle. Between my first born and my second there`s 21 months and we started trying to conceive our second when our first was 6 weeks old. The thing with elevating your bottom works for women that have issues due to their cervix`s as for having sex at night between 4-7 that`s just weird

Amanda - posted on 05/26/2011




I think you should relax and enjoy the process. Trying is the best part. It's only been 2 months and I can tell you there is nothing wrong with you at all. Trying for the second one might take more time that the first.

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Funny that you say it's not common, Kate, because two friends of mine found out they were pregnant again before their firsts were even 3 months. Neither of them were excited, however. ;)

P.S. I'm not disputing the facts or what you were saying.....just thought it was interesting that I know not one, but two people that it happened to.

Carry on...

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There are lots of reasons why it could not be happening yet.... 2 months is nothing. I've known many people who tried for YEARS to get pregnant (and yes, after already getting pregnant at least once rather easily).

I can understand (well, no I can't, but I'll say I can) wanting your kids close together in age, but it's really best for your body and your babies to wait a bit longer. It'll happen when it happens.

Donna - posted on 05/25/2011




How funny are you lol
I want to get pregnant again so they are quite close together and it will be my last baby lol xxx

Kimberly - posted on 05/25/2011




Yeah, I agree with Krista and Kate.Your body needs a break! Unless you have fertility issues, why not enjoy the baby you have now, instead of rushing to make another one so soon!

Evenings work best and elevate your bottoms so nothing comes out!! Umm funniest thing I've heard all day!! What utter rubbish...

Megan - posted on 05/25/2011




try it in the evening works best they say around 4pm until 7pm and elevate your bottom so nothing will "come out." LOL
sorry so ridiculous typing this ! LOL LOL

Krista - posted on 05/25/2011




It usually takes about 6 months or so for your cycle to get back to normal. Plus, if you're breastfeeding, that suppresses ovulation.

After I had my son, my obstetrician advised me to wait at least 9 months before trying for another pregnancy. Why? Because it would give my body time to heal, but it would also give my body time to replenish its nutrient stores, which were depleted by the baby.

In fact, many studies have shown that when very little time is given between one childbirth and the next pregnancy, the second baby tends to be more likely to have a low birth weight and other health issues.

So for your own sake and the sake of your second baby's, I'd advise you to hold out for at least another few months, and make sure you're taking your prenatal vitamins every single day.

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