My baby needs constant attention from ME.

Rachael A - posted on 08/13/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I love my daughter to death, but she is driving me crazy. She constantly wants to be held by me and doesnt want anything to do with my husband. I didnt over hold her as a baby because I was afraid of this happening, but at daycare she gets held alot since she is the only girl and the youngest. I feel like I am going to lose my mind, I cant even take a shower without hearing cry because I am not next to her or make dinner without having to pick her up. I'v tried to leave the house and go on a walk while my husband watches her but she just cries the whole time. Even at the church nursery she just cries the whole time I am at the service. Has anyone else ever experienced this? Or have any tips?

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Sarah - posted on 08/14/2014

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Yes, separation anxiety, totally normal for her age. My 5 year old can still be like that sometimes, but at her age, I can explain that mommy needs some alone time. I have no idea if this would work but its worth a shot. I don't know if she has a blankie or stuffed animal that she sleeps with for comfort, if not one might help. You could even get a stuffed animal and take it to bed with you until it gets your "smell" on it. Then when you need some time, get it out and ask her its very important that she takes care of it while you are in the shower/at church/going on a walk. I know with tiny babies sometimes they say to have something in the crib that has the mothers smell on it to soothe babies, I don't know if it would work for a 1 year old, or if she would understand, but hey couldn't hurt, right?! Good luck!

Dove - posted on 08/13/2014

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Separation anxiety is perfectly normal and she's at the perfect age for it.

I promise you this is a very normal stage. I had a kid on both ends of the 'spectrum' that I mentioned. One that had it very minor, rare, and random... and one that had it BAD starting at 6 months and lasting over 3 years.

How does she do at daycare? Is she being held because she is freaking out the whole time? Because if not and she does OK there... that is HUGE (in a good way).

Rachael A - posted on 08/13/2014

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She is 14 months now, she really didn't have a problem until she was about 10 months old and nothing in her day to day life has changed.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/13/2014

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Sounds to me as if she's still under the 12 month mark, if she's being held at daycare because she's the youngest...

Remember that these things are never instant, and it does take time for LO to adjust, even to daddy.

Dove - posted on 08/13/2014

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She's normal. I'm sorry that doesn't exactly HELP the situation at the moment, but she is perfectly normal. Some kids don't exactly go through this stage or it's very minor... some kids go through this stage for YEARS.

How old is she? Hang in there! Even though she cries w/ your husband... he is her father, so she will be fine for you to take a shower or a walk (maybe start w/ 10 minutes... and gradually build up). Having her spend a little bit of alone time w/ your husband will be hard at first, but vitally good for all of you. Not LONG stretches of time... like I mentioned start w/ about 10 minutes, but consistent time and she will learn that Daddy can take care of her too.

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