My baby won't go to sleep without me holding him

First Time - posted on 05/03/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My baby only goes to sleep if I am holding him and he wakes up crying whenever I put him in his Moses basket. He is 3 months old and I don't know how to get him to sleep on his own. Any help?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/04/2015

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Babies are babies. They don't know how to get their way, but they know what comforts them and makes them feel secure, which is usually in moms arms. It is ok to hold your baby. There is no such thing as spoiling a baby.

Sarah - posted on 05/04/2015

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I agree, with Dove. My mother always said, "you cannot spoil an infant with love". For generations, mothers "wore" their babies, slept with their babies etc. Yes, babies do need to learn to self- sooth and self entertain, but not at 3-5 months.

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Dove - posted on 05/05/2015

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Sarah... her comment doesn't even make sense or seem to be related to the OP in any fashion. I was thinking troll, but... weird. ;)

Cathy - posted on 05/05/2015

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Sound like your first baby. What a precious time! Everyone has or had their intuitions but who knows you and your child better?
Focus on giving your best, don't be guilted to act or try to mold too much.Feel what your baby needs and wants and always show LOve and tenderness. Your voice is powerfull- talk to him constantly and use normal speech. They really learn so fast!
Maybe sing him a song as he lies next to you or near you. He needs you Momma. He was formed in you and will take awhile to "learm" you are still there when he's not touching you. . I miss those tender moments.. cherish it!

Dove - posted on 05/04/2015

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My son slept upright on me all night, every night for the first 5 months of his life... and I don't regret a second of it. There is nothing wrong w/ holding a 3 month old as much as you want/can. You can even hold them 24/7 if possible and it's not 'too much'....

Now, if you can't hold him all the time... that is OK too... as long as you respond to his cries. There are a few things you can try to help this situation... waiting to put him down until he is in a very deep sleep, having him sleep w/ something that smells like you, putting him down drowsy and awake and patting him gently if he fusses... etc. It might just take you a while to find the thing that works best for him... or you might just need to wait it out and have him sleep on his own when he is ready.

Yesenia - posted on 05/03/2015

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If your baby is crying every time you put him down your holding him too much. Try new things like tummy time and different things you can do with your baby other than hold him. Try putting a piece of clothing by the baby so they still feel like something/someone is there.

Melissa - posted on 05/03/2015

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if he is my son use to be like that too, so i took a piece of my clothing and put it with him, at first he cried but after a little while he stoppped, i know it is hard but you shouldn't hold him all the time because babies are very smart and they know how to get there way

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