my baby wont go back to sleep at night, any ideas please???

Kim - posted on 02/19/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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when we first brought my baby home she would go back to sleep always without any problems, once she got to 3 1/2 months old she started waking up during the night and staying awake at all hours...sometimes it takes up to 2 hours to get her back to sleep...she isnt crying but she is wide awake...she falls asleep at night without any problems but each time she wakes up for a feed its fingers crossed will she go back to sleep...we also just purchased a jumperoo for her, a couple of days ago she woke an hour after going to bed and would not go back to sleep for almost 4 1/2 hours...her little legs were going like crazy, i didnt want to give into her and put her in the jumperoo but by almost midnight i was at a loss as to what i should do so i put her in!! she was so happy being in there and fell asleep no problem...she slept a good 4 hours woke for a feed and then straight back to sleep for another 4 hours...however last night she woke at 2.30am for a feed and would not go back to sleep yet again...her little legs were again very restless and i know she wanted her jumperoo, i decided this time i wasnt giving into her and finally she fell asleep at 4.30am...my husband works long hours and gets up at 3.30am so he needs his sleep...i'm not really able to just leave her in her crib as she makes lots of babbling noises and keeps him awake...i dont know what to do, should i just put her in the jumperoo knowing she will then sleep or am i just making life harder for myself by giving in to her?? if anyone can help i would really appreciate it

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Kylie - posted on 02/19/2009

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hi. toys in the cot and about 10 dummies. My daughter wakes, has a little play, finds one of her many dummies and then goes back to sleep. good luck

Anna - posted on 02/19/2009

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Hi there, sounds like your little one loves to play w/ mommy! It's hard when they are that little, but I would definetly not put her in the jumperoo and start a bad habit of wanting to play at night or even getting her days/nights confused. I would start by instilling a calming bedtime routine, maybe a bath, low lighting and most importantly put her to bed drowsy or awake so she gets use to her surroundings and learns to put herself back to sleep. After her middle of the night feeding, try your normal soothing techniques, whatever works best for the both of you. My dd loves to be rocked, low lights, and don't offer eye contact or close your eyes so she knows its bedtime and not playtime. Hope this helps some. Good luck to you!

Stacy - posted on 02/19/2009

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Don't give in and get in the habit of being up every night. Your husband will be better off in the long run to tough it out now, and let her learn to settle herself back to sleep. One item I could not live without when my daughter was a baby was a vibrator that clips onto the crib. It really helped to sooth her back to sleep. Hang in there - good luck!

Lisa - posted on 02/19/2009

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OKAY YOU NEED TO LIMIT HER SLEEP IN THE DAY. STICK TO A ROUTINE THAT WORKS FOR EACH OF YOU. AND WHEN SHE WAKES UP LET HER CRY IT OUT. GIVE HER SOME TIME TO TEACH HER HOW TO SOOTH HERSELF. IF YOU DO GO IN THERE DONT PICK HER UP BUT RE ASSURE HER AND RUB HER HEAD OR SING TO HER. DONT LET HER GET HER DAYS AND NIGHTS CONFUSED IT IS A HARD HARD HABIT TO BREAK. IF IT BOTHERS YOUR HUSBAND IT IS TO BAD CUZ THATS WHAT YOU SIGNED UP FOR YOU HAVE BABIES. JUST A PART OF LIFE WE ALL GO THROUGH. IT WONT LAST FOREVER

Tara - posted on 02/19/2009

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One thing that I did (and still do) with my daughter is to make sure she has a physical after dinner activity, then we have a bedtime routine with relaxation period that is the same every night.  This has helped with many bedtime issues for us.  The other thing that I do is to stick to my guns about bedtime & sleeping habits.  My daughter (now 3) asks if it's 'good morning' before coming downstairs because we give her such structure (in a nice & rewarding way).  Not everyone agreed with my giving limited options to her as a newborn/infant (such as no stimulating activity at cirtain times - no matter what), but she learned very quickly and we never saw some of the issues that others often have.



As far as giving in... It's as difficult a subject as disipline... it's hard to stop something once you start, so pick your battles carefully.

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Belen - posted on 11/19/2015

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Give your DD babies magic tea. I hope she will start sleeping normal. It soothes babies from tummy troubles that keep them awake all the night.

Lacey - posted on 02/21/2009

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is she eating enough before bedtime? the dr said that at this age our son may start waking up in the middle of the night even if he hasn't been. you definitely have to let her learn to soothe herself. nighttime music or one of those music crib things seem to work well. make sure you don't turn on many lights when she wakes up.

Kim - posted on 02/21/2009

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thank you everyone for your stories and your suggestions i will keep working on this problem and try different ideas with her and hopefully one of them will work!

Kiwana - posted on 02/19/2009

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I wouldn't give in all the time.  Perhaps you should move her bed to a different room so that dh can sleep or keep her in your room and he'll learn to sleep through her babbles.  I know this may sound harsh but Moms go to work tired and lacking sleep all the time and we learn to get through it.  Dads have to do the same thing sometimes.  If your dh is unable to adjust to the baby's babbling you may have to try to move her bed or take her into the other room to get to sleep but then you'll miss out on your sleep.

Jeannette - posted on 02/19/2009

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My son started waking up lots when he was that age. He was more aware of the environment and wanted me all night. And it would take me 2 hours to get him to bed. When he was about 5 months we let him cry himself to sleep. It was so hard, but after that he only woke up 2 times a night. After his nighttime nursing, I would put him in his crib and if he work up he had to settle himself to sleep. When he was 9 months he started wanting to play after his night feed so we stopped going to him at night and after remarkable little fussying, he started sleeping through the night. A bedtime routine is definately good, but if your baby is old enough you may want to consider ignoring him. You husband might lose sleep (it's best to start when he has a few days off) but in the end all 3 of you will get more sleep. Good luck.

Andrea - posted on 02/19/2009

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Sounds like what happened with my daughter. She was a great sleeper, and then at 4 months, started not sleeping through the night anymore, and wanting to be awake. We just kept putting her down, and when she wouldn\t sleep, I would rock her, just like I do before I put her in her crib for the night. It was a sleepless few weeks, but she got back on track, and now sleeps even better than before. I don't know how long your daughter has been doing this, but hopefully it's just temporary. Also, it might be a growth spurt or something. I wouldn't recommend the jumperoo simply because it seems like playtime in the middle of the night, but I can't say for sure, because what works for one, might not work for another. Hopefully, you find whatever works best for you. Good luck!!

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Hi, this was my case when my little girl was about your little girl. So i tried many things, but what the most worked was giving her a warm bath before going to bed and let her feel comfy in her bed even though before she gets asleep. let her know her surroundings and for sure lulliby cds will help you so much. Good luck

Krissy - posted on 02/19/2009

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have you tryed any lulliby cd's? I find with my daugher listening to just a few songs will make her sleepy and maybe before you put her to sleep (the first time) let her have a work out in her jumperoo and tire herself out. then maybe when she wakes up for a feeding she will still be tired and sleep

Anna - posted on 02/19/2009

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Hi there, sounds like your little one loves to play w/ mommy! It's hard when they are that little, but I would definetly not put her in the jumperoo and start a bad habit of wanting to play at night or even getting her days/nights confused. I would start by instilling a calming bedtime routine, maybe a bath, low lighting and most importantly put her to bed drowsy or awake so she gets use to her surroundings and learns to put herself back to sleep. After her middle of the night feeding, try your normal soothing techniques, whatever works best for the both of you. My dd loves to be rocked, low lights, and don't offer eye contact or close your eyes so she knows its bedtime and not playtime. Hope this helps some. Good luck to you!

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