My babygirl makes four soon and still some issues

Chelly - posted on 07/16/2016 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My princess makes four soon and she barely hold any sentences together and her words are barely clear, also she doesn't got to the toilet on her own no matter how many times I explain it to her and act it out with her and even show her big girl videos. Also she doesn't tell me when another child is harming her until I catch a child in the act hitting on my baby are something. She is about to be four but still doesn't seem to have the milestone of a four year old and that scares me because if you can't tell me someone hit you are touched you wrong are didn't feed you how will I know. She I will soon be giving birth to my princess bby brother so I give her my undivided attention more then usual. My baby cannot even right and alphabet let alone her name she always get her colors mixed up and can barely count pass 10. Come on ladies what am I up against with my princess? This really bothers me and hurts me to where I be stressed out but try not to stress because I don't want my kids to see me that way..

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Sarah - posted on 07/17/2016

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Chelly, her language and writing skills are not out of the normal limits for her age. If you are concerned about any part of her development you can contact your local public school's Dept of Special Ed and request an evaluation. Withing 60 days a full assessment of her hearing, motor skills, cognition, vision and health will be performed by a host of specialists. They will also take a detailed history from you about her health and development. Then, the results are complied and if she needs help in a particular area those services can be implemented thru the school.

Chariz Renafe M. - posted on 07/16/2016

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Hi!! My son is turning 4 too. We have the same situation. He doesn't know how to identify letters and count well but I think theres nothing to worry. You can let your baby watch educational videos or open an interesting conversation on how to count and letter sounds. I think its a step by step progress. And we, moms, we also play a big role in this development.

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Sarah - posted on 07/22/2016

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Again, contact the Dept of Special Ed, even if she is not a student. They will guide you in getting an eval....

Dove - posted on 07/18/2016

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I would 'think' that getting the evaluation before tackling the potty might be wise... in case it's a developmental delay issue...?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/18/2016

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As others have said, go have her evaluated by the pediatrician, so you can get the referrals you need. If you don't, then you are not going to get the help you need for your daughter.

Stop using diapers and pullups. Take her to the store to have her pick out her big girl underwear, and a potty seat (seperate potty chair, or one that fits on the toilet, whatever she picks). You may still need an overnight diaper for a while until she gets used to bladder control, but if you keep putting diapers on her, she is going to continue to think peeing and pooping in her pants is acceptable. You can even just let her be naked, or just with the new underwear on. Pull ups and diapers take away the moisture from the body and make them comfortable if they pee. Underwear won't do that. She will feel it, and not like it and hopefully prompt her to use the bathroom.

You just got to do it mom. Get her evaluated and eliminate diapers. Just do it. No excuses.

Dove - posted on 07/18/2016

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OK... so you take her to the doctor now and get a referral to be evaluated. Easter Seals typically only deals w/ 0-3, but since she's not yet 4 they might do it... or have another program to refer her to. You are the only one that can find her the help that she needs to reach her full potential.

Hey, my son is 8 and still can't say most of his 'r' sounds and has a lisp. I've been trying to get him speech therapy (admittedly not pursuing as adamantly as I should have) through the school for 2 years now... He JUST started speech therapy a month before the school year ended, but I've been reassured that it will start up automatically once the school year resumes in August.

There is help available for your daughter, but YOU have to be proactive and keep pursuing it. Good luck!

Chelly - posted on 07/18/2016

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@ Dove I take her to her checkups, the last time she went to daycare the teacher gave me information on different people that she referred her to. And not even a week time. I found out we were moving to a different state and it took almost three months to get settled in this state because the state we left messed up on sending over all the shot records, getting her medicaid situated, trying to find a school all this was a bit of hassle when not having all the paperwork. Then when I took her to the school I asked alot of questions before signing all that paperwork. And all I was told was take her to a doctor to refer her to a different type of doctor so she can get appropriate help. And to come back next year and try to enroll her and to please get her toilet training under control is what I was told. Like any caring mother you become more hurt then mad at the outsiders. Especially if you are seeking help and only have not even a handful of folks that's willing to help you and point you in the right direction. Im just saying so Im just taking it one day at a time and doing my research. But thanx again for your feedback as well Dove. Have yourself a blessed day

Dove - posted on 07/17/2016

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If you are not in the US and the school in your country will not evaluate her then you should be able to take her to the doctor to get a referral to the appropriate people. Do you not take her to the doctor for yearly check ups? I would think these issues would have come up a year or two ago (the speech concerns, at least).

Chariz Renafe M. - posted on 07/17/2016

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My pleasure Chelly. Thats what I did for my son when I am teaching him to poop in the real toilet. Actually, its his own decision to go there because thats what he observed from us. As of now, every time he feels pee and poop, he goes directly to the toilet.

Sarah - posted on 07/17/2016

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If you live in the US, they have to evaluate her AND provide services. I deal with this every single day as a school nurse

Chelly - posted on 07/17/2016

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Thank You Sarah on your feedback as well, See I tried to enroll her in school but they won't admit her until she is going to the restroom on her own and not in need of assistance for as changing a pullup or something. And my baby really doesn't attempt to go to the toilet unless she is told to go then a majority of the time she cries because she is being told to go so much. And even if I stay on her about being a big girl and that's what big girls do baby. She turns around and say ( No ) to be cleaning up number 1's and 2's has became so frustrating but its my duty to keep calm and keep her calm in the process of it all. I don't know what storm this is but lord knows this to shall pass. I been trying to get her evaluated though, and some people are saying go thru her medical doctor and let them do the referring, others saying go thru social security and let those doctors do the evaluating. Im just like point me in the direction of a speech therapist and a well understanding doctor who takes their time and not jump tp conclusions.

Chelly - posted on 07/17/2016

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Thank you Chariz for your feedback, also trust me I know us as mothers have to be patient and strong for our babies. And far as the educational videos. We do that on a regular plus include lil different short clips of how big girls go to the toilet. I use to always say potty but now I use big girl terms towards her to get her to kind of understand. My baby just I can't find the word but I will know the word that Im looking for by the end of this week.

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