my babys dad left

Sara - posted on 10/25/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




my babys dad left and idk wut to do i feel really depressed i have a 2 year old son and im 19 my babys dad is 21 and ever since i had the baby he would always wnna party then one day he just lleft and no partys non stop and im so hurt i love him so much idk wut to do he keeps putting me down and i feel so alone and ugly and tht no other guy would want me cause i have a baby and tht i can never love again i feel like any guys tht come in my life wont be good enough like my babys dad


Jodi - posted on 10/25/2012




Well, think of it this way, your baby's daddy wasn't good enough either.

You are young. Right now, you need to focus on making a life for yourself and your little boy, and trying to maintain a parenting relationship with your ex. Believe me, there are good and loving men out there, but now is not the time to focus on that. It will come when you are ready. You need to be strong, ignore the negative remarks made by your ex, and prioritise yourself and your little boy.

With regard to the parenting relationship, just be aware that despite the fact you are no longer together, you and your ex WILL be your son's parents for the rest of his life, so you will have to deal with him in one way or another. Make sure you file paperwork to sort out custody, visitation and child support. Your son needs to have both of you in his life, if possible, and as his primary carer, you need to make sure you facilitate that as best you can.

And believe in yourself! That's important.

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