Gillian - posted on 05/22/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
its been a bit rocky for awile but he and i still spent time together said we loved each other and spent time with the baby, recently i feared there was another person he as spending time with instead of us, my ex has just recently lost his father and we were going through filing papers for custody (originally it was only bc we were moving out of state together) now he says he lost his father and is loosing his son, well last night he told me he is unhappy and no good will come out of this we wont ever be together. ive been through so much including driving a wedge between my family and friends to be there for this guy and all he thinks about is himself, not the fact that ive givin up everything, not the fact ive been by his side even when he ran away from us and was (and still is) a drug addict. i feel totally helpless and abandond im so broken up by this and he tried to tell me he wouldnt cut me out of his life, like this is some regular break up, its not. he has a court date soon and will be likely erving some time, he said what hurt the most was not seeing me and his baby, not all of a sudden everything is back to being bad and its all my fault (via his viewpoint) i just dont know what to do, letting him go and have space is SO hard for me im so confused and after 3 years he does this in a text. no closure no nothing. im absolutly demolissed and heart broken. i want so badly for my family (me him and our baby) to be together like he has wanted since day one. he said we would still do things together with the baby and all i could think was no way! i cant see you i cant be civil, you have never taken responsibility for your child never kept a job, stole money from us, and you think you have rights to our son> no you do not. so i had decided to one last time extend the offer and try to be civil untill my custody papers go through and ive gotten no response as of now. we love this man we need him in our lives regardless of the stuff thats happened, he lost his father, cut us out, how can he possibly think this is going to help him.
we discussed a few things and i thought it was looking up, i appologised for the things i had done and he said he could forgive me, he then said he just doesnt see any good coming out of this and we cant be together, a week ago we slept together, and spent the night together, im just so confused by everything, will he realize his actions were really stupid and come back to us?
i ended up texting him back after he said goodnight and i really unvieled my feelings on this matter, he finally replied with "leave me alone from no on" like he can dish it out but cant listen to me? on top of everything i had a pregnancy scare and it made things even harder on me, i think giving space is needed but im afrid he will never come back
what do i do???