MY BF DOSEN'T LOVE OUR SON !!!

Neri - posted on 01/04/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have a one n half year old son who pretty much cries for anything. My bf wants to spank him every time he cries , he says its annoying and that he dosent understand why he cries so much and especialy for me. I tell him if he cries its because something is wrong. I say maybe he is hungry, dirty diaper or something hurts. He tells me I always have an excuse for his crying. We argue constantly over his crying. I am about 5 weeks pregnant and Im thinking of getting an abortion I cant possibly have another baby with him . He tells me he dosent know why he feels the way he feels for our son and that hurts me. I dont know what to do because I dont understand why he would feel no love for him. He has another son with a previous marriage and he loves him. As for now my bf is out of the home due to this argueing.

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Sarah - posted on 01/05/2015

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I had a child that whined instead of crying, we taught him a few basic signs. Stop, food, thirsty, share, please and thank you and sorry. That cut it down a lot. As far as your boyfriend, you have got to put your child's well being first. Honestly, what reason would you need to spank a 18 month old? Don't give up your baby, unless you really feel you cannot parent another child. Your boyfriend needs therapy, don't let him back in until he gets some.

Michelle - posted on 01/05/2015

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By 18 months your child should be able to use simple words instead of crying. I don't agree with your BF wanting to spank him but you also need to encourage your son to use his words.
When he cries for something get down to his level and ask him what he wants. Let him know he has to stop crying and either point or tell you what he wants. If he points to something, say what it is and get him to repeat.

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Neri - posted on 02/09/2015

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Thank you you'r comment is very helpful. At this time I'm actualy trying to teach him to talk say certain and easy words ... He uses the baby talk still and I'm not sure if thats because he was born premature.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/05/2015

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I would kick his ass out. Get a lawyer and set up custody agreement. If you want this baby, have it. Don't let him be your reason.

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