Jamie - posted on 05/16/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )
I've been married to my husband for 7 years and he has a son from his first marriage who will be 11 in July. When I first met my husband everything was great but now that we have our daughter (just turned 5), I feel like my stepson goes out of his way to make me (and his sister) feel like we're not as important as his 'real family'. He doesn't come right out and say anything specific, it's in the small details. Constantly referring to me by my first name (even though he calls his stepdad 'Dad'), asking to call his 'real Mom' repeatedly, refusing to share anything with his sister (even though he very willingly shares with everyone else). I've been fighting the urge lately to feel disconnected from him. I almost prefer it when we just have our daughter overnight instead of when we have both children. It's just quieter, easier, less drama, and I feel like a better Mom when it's just me and my daughter. I've read a few other comments on here and it sounds like I'm not alone in this. Blended families are tough. It doesn't mean I don't love him, I just find that it's harder to love him because I'm painfully aware of his 'real Mom'.