My boy has moved with his father

Gee - posted on 09/18/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hello everyone, I signed up today to this site because I feel totally crushed by my son.

He's 14 years old and decided to move with his dad, after $4,000 out I had to give in and just let him go. Unfortunately I do feel that he's manipulated my child into doing so. Everything his father says or does he goes along with it. I understand a boy his age might feel closer to his dad but I've also been there from day one. His father was not there when he was born up until my son was 5 years old. I had him alone, I was the one changing diapers, breast feeding, doing all the running around ALONE. And even so he wanted a DNA test, he eventually dropped the DNA idea since my son is was his replica and I guess he felt stupid when he confused his own baby picture with my sons. But because I felt my son deserved to have his father around I gave his dad a chance to step up and he did. I've been through a lot raising my son alone. So there was a time his dad had to step in and care for him. However, it didn't last long but at the end of the day that's why we are parents. When We should be there for our kids when one parent can't. All of these events would make a man feel like he shouldn't entertain my kids idea of moving in with him. But instead he fueled my kid into leaving.

I am stable, I have nice home, my child is taken care of when he's with me. I just don't see how or why he would do this. I've become an every other weekend mother and it's killing me. I can't sleep at night thinking how this is all my fault. I've allowed his father to step in and make up his lost time with him and now it's smacking me in the face. He's managed to buy my sons love and I don't know what to do or how to feel anymore. I feel betrayed.

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Dove - posted on 09/18/2015

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♥ Give it time. Maybe you can start a hobby or a girl's night out w/ friends to help distract you and give you another 'purpose' other than just your son.

Gee - posted on 09/18/2015

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Thank you and you're right but it's still very fresh and now I'm trying to get back to life without having him around for the most part.

I have no one to go home to and care for other than my fiance. But he sleeps the entire evening since he works over nights 12am to 1pm at times.

Dove - posted on 09/18/2015

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He's 14 and that's his father. Unless his father is an actual physical danger to him... you accept it and enjoy the time you DO have w/ your son. I can't imagine how hurt and lonely you must feel, but the more you dwell on it the more strained your relationship w/ your son will become.

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