My boy wants a girlfriend. 11 years old

Nicoleta - posted on 07/24/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




He is having fair hair and blue eyes.He is funny and playful.He says thathe will take care of his girlfriend.So cute....


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/24/2014




And you've explained why this is not a realistic goal for an 11 YO, right?


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Angela - posted on 07/24/2014




I think lots of kids are aware of the opposite sex from before adolescence. Many have innocent friendships/courtships. Don't imagine that it's harmful, it could be beneficial for both kids who are involved. Friendly competition, encouragement with studies, shared interests etc ...

But he has to find the girl first!

Saying that it would be a bad thing, and discouraging him will likely make it his number one goal, despite your advice.

Talk to him about what sort of girl he would like to form a relationship with. Find out what attracts him. If it's all based on how pretty she is, or what he can get from her* it's not so good. If it's based on mutual respect, getting along together and having innocent and happy times together, then that's better!

* When I speak of "what he can get from her" I don't mean sexual favours! I mean material privileges - lots of kids do this, not only with boyfriends/girlfriends but with friends. It's like looking for the friend who has a pool in their backyard, whose Dad/Mom has the best car or who has contacts with "useful" people etc ....

Dove - posted on 07/24/2014




At 11 he should be focusing on school, sports (or other activities), and friends (groups... male and female... no one on one w/ a girl) and a 'girlfriend' is not a smart choice right now.

I hope you are explaining all this to him and guiding him. Sure... it's 'cute'... until you become a grandma in 2-3 years.

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