My boyfriend doesnt help with his kids

Donna - posted on 09/28/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




My boyfriend and his two kids 8 and 6 have been living with me since about April. He just recently got a job. Up until then I have been primarily taking care of them along with my own child. He has giving me money on and off through the months hes been here but he thinks all he has to pay is just the difference of the bills and lately doesn't do anything around the house inside or outside. Since he began working, when he comes home he either goes and lays down in the bedroom or on the recliner and leaves me to take care of his kids. When I mention that I need help he acts like im just complaining and don't want to help his kids. Am I wrong for complaining . I too also work full time as a preschool teacher.


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Michelle - posted on 09/29/2014




Unless you set up the rules now it won't get any better. I agree with Evelyn that you need to have a good talk with him about who is responsible for who/what.
Maybe he sees you as a free babysitter.

Ev - posted on 09/29/2014




Did you two sit down and talk about what things were going to be like and your expectations of each other before he moved in? It seems like that conversation did not get going. You need to sit him down when the kids are not around and tell him how you feel about being left to take total care of his kids all the time, how you feel about doing all the household chores without help, and that he needs to pitch in and take over some things especially where his kids are concerned. If you two are planning to get married, this is what you are going to be doing anyhow. What did he do before when his kids came over before he moved in with you? WHo fed them, made sure they went to bed, brushed teeth, took a bath, did homework, and all that goes into taking care of kids.

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