My boyfriend left me because I am pregnant...advice please?!

Chloe - posted on 11/02/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I don't really know where to begin...I was with my ex for 2 years, we had a great relationship and got on like a house on fire. He was my best friend as well as my boyfriend.

Just over a month ago I found out that I was pregnant. It was not planned as I was taking the pill. As soon as I found out I rang him straight away. He wasn't happy but said he would support me whatever decision I made. However that night he was quiet and didn't really speak to me. After sitting down with my parents he told them that he will support me.

That weekend we went to his parents. It was horrible. He stood there whilst his mum kicked off saying she wants nothing to do with it, it isn't a baby but a piece of tissue, mine and my partners relationship is over and he does not do bills. He is 25 and I am 23, we both work full time.

That night I walked out, floods of tears and he did not chase after me. When I eventually spoke to him he agreed with what his mum said.

We decided to end it a few days after, i went to my scan which he knew about but did not ask me how it went or even how I'm feeling. He has rang me crying and apologising. He did text me most days but they would just turn into arguments. I have since deleted him from my phone and social networks.

The last text I received from him said "hope everything works out for you"

I miss him so much and I can't stop thinking about him and wondering what he's doing and if he's thinking about or missing me. Can anyone help me? I'm terrified of going through this pregnancy on my own, know I have great family and friends but I'd rather be doing this with him. Will he come round?


Jodi - posted on 11/02/2013




He might come around, he might not. No-one can predict that part of things. You need to focus on the things YOU can control, and that is focusing on yourself and your baby. Your baby needs you. You have done the right thing disconnecting from him. But please don't lock that door - if he wants a relationship with the child, you should support this, because the child has a right to a relationship with both parents.

Also, make sure that as soon as the baby is born, you file for custody and child support. By all means offer him the opportunity for visitation through this process, but he has an obligation to assist in raising the child financially. It may be worth talking to a lawyer in advance and having the papers drawn up and ready to be filed as soon as the baby is born.


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[momoftwo] - posted on 11/02/2013




One word of advice is do not wait for him to come around because it may not happen at all, my ex ditched my baby and I and we were better off without him anyway. Only time will heal but things will get better and you will get over it. You are about to have a new best friend, the only one that should truly matter. No man is worth your tears. That baby will love you to no extent, more than any man ever could. :)

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