My boyfriend of 3 years wants me to abort baby

Brittany - posted on 03/29/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi, I am 26. I have a 5 year old, AMAZING son. I have been with my bf for 3 years and since day one have been honest with him about the fact that my son comes first. And that I am looking for a man to be part of our family. Overall he has been great and plays and talks with my son everyday. My son loves him and calls him daddy since he is the only daddy he has ever known. He tells me he wants to marry me all the time and talks about kids in our future. Well surprise surprise we got pregnant! second time in 6 months , i lost the first one. I want more kids now , but he has been on fence, but takes risks in the bedroom, and jokes about it. Anyway now that my pregnant he says its a curse and it ruins everything in his life, that he is depressed and miserable. Seriously?! than last night he asked me to get an abortion and furthermore told me that he doesn't love my son , and he just "tolerates" him but sees him as any strangers child. I don't know what to do! I would leave him in a heart beat even though i love him , because me son deserves better, but now my pregnant and don't believe in abortion.

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Sarah - posted on 03/29/2016

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This is a good reason to wait to start your family until you are married. Much of what he says may come from fear. Fear that he may not be able to parent and the awesome scariness of a newborn. If you really think what he says is the truth; I'd leave. file for child support and offer a shared custody plan. If you think it is fear, then maybe seek counseling for the two of you.

Michelle - posted on 03/29/2016

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Well I wouldn't be staying with him. Maybe he needs to get used to the idea.
If not then leave and make sure you get custody, visitation and child support sorted out as soon as the baby is born.

You said that he doesn't use protection so now he has to man up and accept responsibility for his actions. Abortion is birth control and maybe it's time he learned that.
If he means what he said about just tolerating your son then that's another red flag to leave. You are right to put your child before any man!

Nicole - posted on 03/29/2016

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keep the baby and tell him to hit the bricks ..... or just separate for a little while so he can find out what he wants in life . if he comes around than cool but if not you got this dont do something your against .

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Tyra Gwenaver - posted on 03/29/2016

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He is still not ready , maybe confused ? give the two of you a break and then continue your pregnancy stay healthy for the baby .. make a stand you're already a mom . you will always be another baby is coming and i guess you are excited . be strong :*

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