My boyfriend threatens me!!! PLEASE HELP- NEED ADVICE !!!

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Well we're do I start...I'm a stay at home mom & I'm 19 years old & a first time mommy to a beautiful 4 month old babygirl. The thing is that me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years (I was 17 when I moved in with him) & every time we argue he's always calling me name such as fat, b**ch, spick, lazy, stupid, ugly & I put up with it..& he's always telling me to leave because he doesnt love me & don't want to be with me. So I tell him if I leave I'm taking my daughter with me & he says that if I do he's going to take me to court to take her away from me. Just because I'm not working & I won't give her what she needs or provide for her< < which it's total bull!! & I f I do leave I know that I'll do anything to take care of her !! But at the back of my mind I always think about everything that he says to me & I'm kind of scared to have my daughter taken away from me so I stay, I do love him but when it comes to my daughter I'll do anything for her!!
Im the one who takes care of her all the time, wakes up in the middle of the night to attend to her (even after I had her I was the one who woke up every night even with all the pain I had). I give her baths, I feed her , I change her dirty diapers, the only ones he changes are just the wet ones & only if I ask if he can do it, he barely does anything!!! & I'm sooo sorry for writing too much I just need to take things off my chest!!!!! :(

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/14/2013

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Neither of you needs the men in your lives.

Both of you need to get legal representation, establish paternity & get custody & support orders worked out.

Generally it takes more than just not having a job to get a kid removed from care, especially if they're under a year old and breastfeeding.

Andie - posted on 11/14/2013

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I'll never ever ever regret my son :) and I love his father, and we have great memories but lately our fights and troubles are getting in the way. Any decision I make will be big and I'm scared to choose. I'm hoping some good Luck comes out way

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Andie,
Sometimes I feel like I jumped I'm this relationship to quick, you know...but I'll never regret having my daughter...she's my world !!

Andie - posted on 11/14/2013

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I'm in your same boat (like no joke the only difference is u have a baby girl and I have a baby boy) I hope whatever advice comes our way that we both can be strong and know that it's the right thing to do

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