my boyfriends ex doesnt want her kids around me or my son

Emily - posted on 10/23/2014 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend has been separated from his ex for 3 years and we have been togethrr going on a year. He has two kids with this woman and I have one of my own. I am the first woman he has introduced to his kids and his ex is not having it. She and her mother even cursed me out at our kids t ball game for cheering on her daughter. Now she is refusing to let my boyfriend get his kids when its daddy days until he breaks up with me and is telling the kids its daddys fault and is threatening to take him to court to keep my son and I away. I want to be on good terms with her for the kids sake but she is making it impossible. What should I do?

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Alicia - posted on 10/25/2014

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I am in the same situation except its been going on for at least 3 years and the day i met his daughter she wouldnt let him have her and visit anymore, she threatens family if i go to see her with everyone, including my sons, her brothers, that they wont be able to see her anymore either. there isnt any court order but she keeps her away from him by making everyone afraid they wont see her and we cant afford a lawyer. she even tells the daughter that her brothers arent her brothers and that daddy has a new family and loves us more than her then tells him he should give up his rights because hes hurting her, i hate it all and most of all i hate her, she never even tried to know me before she went nuts :(

Michelle - posted on 10/24/2014

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Yep, what the others said. He needs to take her to court for contempt and violation of the orders. If she has claims against you then she needs to prove it.
You can't do anything though, it has to be your boyfriend.

Dove - posted on 10/24/2014

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Well... then suggest he take her to court over violating the court order and if she thinks you are harassing the kids... let her prove it.

Emily - posted on 10/24/2014

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Thanks moms. They do have a court order but she says she doeant care because according to her I'm harassing her children.

Jodi - posted on 10/24/2014

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He needs to get a lawyer and file for visitation. He also needs to keep a diary making note of EVERYTHING, including when she has refused him access. What she is doing is called parental alienation and if she isn't careful, she could potentially lose custody altogether. She has no right to control his life and use the children as pawns just because she doesn't approve.

Gena - posted on 10/23/2014

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I also agree with Dove,and Michelle. He should be allowed to move on with his life,including you.

Michelle - posted on 10/23/2014

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I agree with Dove.
If he doesn't have a court order then he needs to go to court and set up visitation.
She can't tell him who he can see unless they are a threat to the children. Everyone is allowed to move on with their life so I don't see a judge agreeing to what she wants.

Dove - posted on 10/23/2014

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You shouldn't do anything. He should have a court order and if she's violating it... take her back to court. She could potentially lose custody for withholding his court ordered visitations.

If he doesn't have a court order for visitation... unfortunately there is nothing he can do about it either until he gets one.

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