My child has been replaced by a demon!

Eve - posted on 09/12/2017 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I do not know who this person is that has replaced my sweet daughter, but I DO NOT like her at all. Rude, arrogant, selfish, nasty, sulking have all replaced my sweet, helpful, responsible child. Nothing I say or do helps, in fact, quite the opposite. she goes off at the slightest suggestion from her dad and I. She hasnt spoken to us for 2 days, not even a good morning, heck even a grunt would suffice at this point. Lets not even start on how she treats her poor brother. Poor kid so much as breathes in her direction and he is the worst thing out. Reading all the posts, apparently this is normal behaviour? I am at my wits end with her, seriously considering boarding school.

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Sarah - posted on 09/12/2017

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AAAHHH 15! It is a brutal age. Few things to consider; is everything ok at school (socially and academically), does it seem worse with her cycle, is she eating properly, is she getting enough rest, and does she seem generally content when she is not with her family? All of those things affected my teens behavior. Ev is right, you have to let her know that this is not going to be tolerated. She doesn't have to be chatty or chipper all of the time; but she does have to be courteous. Set very clear expectations: she must greet you and say good-bye, no eye rolling, no yelling or snapping, she must comply with a set of chores etc. While her behavior is awful, she is at a time where her brain is growing rapidly, she is a hormonal grenade, and she is searching for her own independence. Praise and reward her positive efforts, but remind her that she is 15 and you control her phone, computer, social life, comforts of her bedroom and her privacy and you will take each one away if she cannot demonstrate self control.
This is very typical for the age and it is part of her becoming an adult; a slow painful process. Good luck!

Ev - posted on 09/12/2017

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What consequences have you given her? You never mentioned that. She needs to know that she is not the one in charge and that treating this way is not accepted or tolerate. Take away her tech, toys, favorite things and privileges until she starts to see you mean business. Sending her away does not help the problem but only makes it worse.

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Ev - posted on 09/13/2017

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Moving may have a part in it but for her to just become disrespectful all of a sudden.....

Eve - posted on 09/13/2017

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Nope, its literally been since the weekend. She has been quiet and reserved but not rude or disrespectful until Sunday past. I thought the quietness was due to the fact that we have moved and she was adjusting to the surroundings, which i guess could also be a contributing factor to the attitude...

Ev - posted on 09/12/2017

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This kind of behavior does not come out over night or in a matter of a few hours. It had to have been there for a while.

Eve - posted on 09/12/2017

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Our children are home schooled, so yes, academically all is good. She broke her phone over the weekend which I told her was her own fault for treating it so badly and have refused to have it fixed until she can show some responsibility. I think that is what stirred the dragon... We have called a family meeting tonight in order for her to see that her dad and I are a unit and will not be played against each other, we both stand firm that this behavior will not be tolerated nor accepted. She has never been a great sleeper, is a complete night owl, takes her some time to get going in the mornings but she up until this point has been great. This behaviour literally came out of nowhere, on Sunday morning she was perfect, Sunday afternoon its like something snapped in that little head and my sweet child was evicted!

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