My child is 5 1/2 yrs old and still whines and cry's about anything how can I stop it?

Marissa - posted on 01/15/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )




So my child is 5 1/2 yrs old and most of the time he would talk to me like he is whining. Then when I tell him no he will cry. I tired of it and it is upsetting me. The teacher is also telling me that he talks to her like if he is a toddler. How can I make him talk normal??? Help.


Emily - posted on 01/16/2011




Instead of just telling him "no," tell him you don't respond to whining. Then do what you say, and don't respond if he's whining. Model an appropriate way to talk if you have to. Don't get angry about it.. just be matter-of-fact. He will get the idea.

Rebekah - posted on 01/16/2011




If my son is whining about something, sometimes I'll say, "I can't understand you when you talk like that. Please use a nice voice if you have something to tell/ask me." And then I go about my business until he is able to use a nicer voice, after which I will give him my full attention. It works so far!
As for the school setting, maybe you and the teacher can come up with a simple sticker chart where he can earn stickers for talking in a regular voice. Maybe its a habit that needs to be broken. Is even aware of what "whining" is? As you explain it to him, you could overact and show him the difference between a whiny voice versus a pleasant voice so he gets the message about what's expected. If he forgets himself, have him repeat his statement in a regular voice.

Aleks - posted on 01/16/2011




I find that my 5 yo does whine a lot more if he is not getting the right amount of the right type of attention.
While at times it is hard finding the time to do so.... and also having the morden life can make us at times forget how much attention our children (even though they are no longer babies like they used to be) still really need from us.

I hope that I have given you an idea for a solution to your problem :-)
good luck

Louise - posted on 01/16/2011




This sounds to me that he has confidence issues. Try and boost his confidence for praising him for positive behaviour. Ask him questions that he knows the answer to and praise him. Try and talk problems through with him when he starts to whine. Tell him to stop crying and come and talk to mummy. Let him make decisions for himself like what he wears and what he has in his sandwiches that sort of thing and praise him for making the right choice. If you take this firmer stance with him of no crying but talking about it he should learn that to talk is the way to get things done and to whine achieves nothing.


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Michelle - posted on 01/16/2011




My son used to do that all the time we would just remind him that he was not a baby anymore and mom was more then willing to listen to what he had to say when he talked like a big boy but not until then. This always worked for us as he liked to talk a lot so the whining disappeared quickly, so that he was sure we were listening to him.

Phyllis - posted on 01/16/2011




I'd give you all kinds of fantastic advice, but my 5 1/2 yr old is having a complete breakdown...yelling, screaming, kicking and pulling his hair. So I guess I'll get back to you...

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