Elizabeth - posted on 02/05/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )
I have an 8 year old that has been diagnosed with O.D.D. (oppositional defiant disorder). I myself have never encountered a child that displays the various behaviors that she does nor have I ever been a witness to another child with similar behaviors such as hers either. She has been in therapy for 4 years and that doesn't seem to really be helping. She has also done a little over a week in a mental health hospital and that seem to do what I expected it too; her behaviors continue to get worse as the days are long. She went from being defiant on task or doing things she knew she wasn't allowed to do and being disrespectful to authority figures including myself to now recently added behaviors such as violence. Her anger seems to be starting point of her violence but it is to the point where she is not only endangering herself, but peers as well. She has been suspended numerous times and hasn't been allowed reentry until hearings had been taken place with the school board. She now currently has a 504 plan in place at school and it doesn't seem to be helping her out very much as she is suspended again pending a hearing for reentry into the school. I am worried and growing depressed because I have no control over my child and I am fearful things are only going to continue to get worse. My child's suspensions are SERIOUS and I mean SERIOUS to the point that her violent actions have lead to her have crime reports drawn up by the school. She has stabbed other children with pencils on two different occasions, I am terrified most nights to even fall asleep because I am constantly trying to figure out what she is going to do next.
I am tempted to have her sent back to the inpatient mental health facility again my only fear is that she will not realize what she is doing wrong and she will not see the facility as somethings serious, but more of a joke/vacation...NOTHING as far as discipline goes phases her. You can only imagine my frustration when I discipline my child or another adult tries to handle the discipline area and my child just "laughs" in your face about it. I have two other children and I hate they witness this behavior from their older sister on the daily.
Many thoughts have run through my mind as options on how to deal and some of these thought's make me feel awful for even having it as a thought such as placing her for adoption.
She tells me she wants to go and live with her father and as that is not an option for her because her father's residence is not a safe place for children due to his struggle with illegal substances and domestic physical violence between him and his girlfriend and neither of them can financially support them selves or the other 4 children in their home per the lack of employment they share as well.
I don't know how many other mom's and dad's are dealing with children with this disorder or behaviors similar to my daughter's, but I need some help, I need that control back or I am going to lose my sanity.