my child needs help to sit. He can sit but cries

Ashley - posted on 09/19/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am a new mother and do not have help from any family as we live away. To make a long steps short my son was born preemie at 31 weeks. He had a major medical issue and was in nicu for 6 months and all I could do was get him out of bed and hold him sometimes. He has faced 5 major surgeries. Almost lost him on the last one. He has a gj button but he only gets feed through that at night because he just started eating baby food two months ago. He is 1 yr and 4 months but since he was preemie he's actually 1 yr 2 months. He has acid reflux so bad that after I would feed him I would leave him in a bouncer to make sure the food did not leak out his button or him throw it up. He has gotten to were he does not want to sit in his walker or jumper. He just wants to lay around. He knows how to sit and I think it's my fault by spoiling him so much so to medical issues. He will get into a crawling position and rock but lay his head down like he doesn't want to do it. I can't let him do belly time to do his button. He's LOVES to stand so I'm thinking he will skip crawling. I have no clue what to do to make him sit up right. It does not hurt him... He just doesn't want to.
I try to walk away and let him cry but he will get so worked up that he makes himself throw up. His father is no help because the moment he cries and runs and picks him up. I would never not answer to his cry but I think he's doing this to pure laziness. I hate to say this but I feel like that and it is my fault. No one give you a book on what to do. Any ideas?


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Sarah - posted on 09/19/2015




I don't have a good answer for you, but I do have a book or person to Google that might interest you. The person us Karyn Purvis. She has several books and Dvd's that may help. Being a preemie and having health issues it is not uncommon to have some sensory issues. Their first touches were painful. He could also get over stimulated easily not wanting the walker as it is too much stimulation and the time. Maybe, maybe not....just something to think about and look into.

Sarah - posted on 09/19/2015




He may feel sleepy after eating. It isn't laziness and I do think it is worth discussing with your pediatrician. Did the surgeon who placed the gj feeding button actually tell you no tummy time? I don't understand why he couldn't lay on it as they are usually flat.

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