my child's father wants to see her after a year and my partner won't allow it?!

Naomi - posted on 07/21/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My child's dad wants to see his daughter after letting her down on many occasions I stopped him from having contact until he grew up. He's now got a job and wants to travel and his his child. But my current partner whoms been in my child's life for the past year won't allow it unless he is in the room. But he dose not like my child's dad and it will probably end in a fight?! Witch I'm not having around my child?! Please help

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Jodi - posted on 07/21/2014

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Wow, you had no right to stop him from seeing his child in the first place!! If he takes you to court over that, you could potentially lose custody. It isn't up to you whether your child can have her father in her life, that's a decision only the courts have the right to make. What you did is called parental alienation. Google it. It's not a pretty result.

Secondly, your current partner has no rights. Zero. And by acting like an ass, he may even HELP you lost all rights to the child at all.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/21/2014

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1) Your current partner has NO AUTHORITY to make any decisions regarding YOUR child.

2) If you denied visitation despite a court order, you need to be thankful that he's not charging you with parental alienation.

3) If you do not have court orders GET SOME.

4) RE: Your last response: YOU CAN'T SAY THAT HER FATHER HAS NOT BEEN INVOLVED WHEN YOU ADMIT THAT YOU CUT OFF CONTACT. Again, your current partner has NO SAY in whether or not the child interacts with their father.

Go to court. Get it settled, legally, and follow court orders, whether you and your partner want to or not. Its the adult way to handle the situation.

Naomi - posted on 07/21/2014

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I do agree but I also see it from my partners point of view he's been there when my child's dad hasn't? He's also seen her dad let her down on many occasions and who's yo say he won't do that again? Or what if it's the opposite and he dose really want to be there and my partner is just making it difficult? I'm so torn 😡

Xavier's - posted on 07/21/2014

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I personally feel if a man would like to see their child , you should allow it ,as long as they're not a super bad person.Maybe now he is able to be the dad he wanted to be now that he has a new job. Im sorry but if YOU feel like your ready to let him see his daughter , you should allow that , not you partner , and you partner should understand that.

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