My children are now 29 (boy)single 27(boy) long term gf 25(girl)single

Debbie - posted on 10/08/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I'm proud of myself as a mum as they are all independent, professional, securely employed, physically ultra fit & uber successful. All three have independently told me they had the best childhood ever and how I was a fab Mum. My husband and I parted ways and got divorced after 25 years of marriage.

I have bi polar and fibromyalgia. Life is a struggle for me sometimes. Yet they very very rarely visit nor phone.

I feel hurt and affronted, they do know this. I consciously try hard to play it down and want to be tremendously supportive to them. I have tried dinner dates (with varying success) and bought tickets to go to events and they have not turned up, despite me treating them. I ideally would like them to phone or meet up once a month.

People say they will naturally come back to me when they need me. But I need them too? Opinions please. Kudos to all fellow Ladies on this forum

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Ev - posted on 10/08/2015

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It is true. Kids will come back around. At these ages they are exploring the world more so. But its nice if they would check in at the least once a month or so. But I would not make plans and spend the money for those plans anymore. If they really want to get together they should help pay for the event. Maybe you should try to find some moms of your age range to hang with. Look in your area for classes of all kinds from cooking to book clubs to meet new people. Find ways to keep busy.

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Michelle - posted on 10/10/2015

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I see her maybe every couple of months or more. She lives an hour away from us. I can go weeks without talking to her as well.

Michelle - posted on 10/09/2015

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I don't catch up with my Mother once a month, I am busy with my own family and she has her own interests.
I guess I have had a lot of problems with mu Mother when I was younger so I do keep her at a distance.
I think you need to find some interests of your own.

Debbie - posted on 10/08/2015

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Evelyn,
You have hit the nail right on the head, very insightful lady
I do go to two different groups, and am also attempting two new friendship ATM.

You read me so well, I have spent money on them previously, perhaps even too generously. I thought about that and the last two months vowed not do so again. So hope I can keep that up.

Thank you for the 'at these ages' sentence. It is indeed my hope for them if I am realistic. They do know I'm proud of them and one day I that it does all turn around :-)
Thank you for your considerations Namaste xx

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