My children live with there father

Haylea - posted on 09/15/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hello
My 3 beautiful children are currently living with there father he taken them 1 weekend and I haven't seen them for nearly a year . I'm currently fighting in a family court . He has a temporary intrum order which means they stay with him until assessments are compleat he has made false allegations about me which it seems agency's believe . He has been orders to bring the children to me on a Saturday for 3 hours :-((( but he has not an broke the law but still it seems social services solicitors etc are allowing ? . I was 15 when I had my first child to him he was 33 I was a child myself i have now come to realize he brow beat and groomed me he controlles me still . I love my baby's so much I've never done anything to hurt them an never would . We're are my rights as a mother ? Don't I have any ? . He is also a alcoholic we both had been orderd to do alcohol & drug tests guess what he failed and I passed am not what he's making me out to be . But yet a alcoholic is still looking after my children full time and social services are allowing it ? We're is the justice ? I've wrote to my local mp and also David Cameron I really hope these people can help me this whole situation is killing me am a wreck were do I go from here what else can I do . I have no life my children are my life how can agencies ignore my situation :-(

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Haylea - posted on 09/15/2013

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Hi yeah I do keep to my side and note everything . yes I ring the social worker every day I can never get her I leave messages at the office with no response . an ye I have a lawyer I tell her everything but she seems useless this is the last hearing so I cannot change her :-( as I'm getting funding so a cant pick and choose . It seems astho I'm in the same position as I was 1 year ago . no matter what I do it dosent work . can they give a alcoholic custody ? X

Jodi - posted on 09/15/2013

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If there are orders in place and he is breaking them, it is likely to go against him. You need to make sure you uphold and follow everything, and that you keep evidence of every thing you can. If he is not allowing you your visits, document it. Keep a diary of EVERYTHING.

With regard to the social worker, have you tried to contact them to arrange a meeting? It may be worth being proactive. Also, do you have a lawyer?

Haylea - posted on 09/15/2013

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Thanks Jodie means a lot . it's all 1 sided that's what's getting to me I've never even met the social worker he's braking all the orders ? Will this go against him ? X

Jodi - posted on 09/15/2013

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The reason no-one can do anything is because you are both the parents and he currently has possession. Because there were not court orders in place (I am assuming) when he took them, he wasn't doing anything illegal. Now that you are going through the family court, it sounds like something is being done. I am assuming all those tests that are being done will be submitted to court as evidence. If a decision on custody has not yet been made, and is pending, then things are happening. You need to wait for the assessments to be finished and the court to make a decision.

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