My Daughter

Racheal - posted on 04/30/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My 12 year old daughter has always hated school she will carry on tha much that i have to dress her etc. And her attitude atm is so mean nasty and mainly to me im the one who is always doing everything to make her happy. Im about to SNAP.

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Jodi - posted on 04/30/2016

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Stop doing everything to make her happy if she's treating you this way. Simple. Ignore her tantrums, make it clear you do nothing if she is going to treat you this way, period.

With regard to school, talk to her about specific reasons she does not want to go to school. She may have some genuine issues that need to be addressed, and could benefit from additional supports there.

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Dove - posted on 05/01/2016

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Yeah... so get her counseling for the anxiety. Stop making excuses for her behavior. When she snaps... send her to her room. No excuses, no exceptions.

I've lived w/ anxiety for 39 years. It's very, very rough, but it's not an excuse to be nasty to people.

Clarke - posted on 05/01/2016

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I spend alot of 1 on 1 time with her she just snaps and when school is nought up shes evil name calling nasty nasty stuff. Shes also got anxiety 😢

Clarke - posted on 05/01/2016

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She also has anxiety as well and im only new to it but i cant get her to school 😢

Dove - posted on 04/30/2016

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You have to dress her? Send her butt off to school in her jammies and let her get sent to the principal...

If she is having that much trouble going to school... perhaps set up a meeting w/ the school guidance counselor to find out if there is a legitimate issue or if it's just a case of a spoiled, hormonal preteen trying to get her own way.

So what if she keeps carrying on? Send her off to her room to read, draw, or listen to music (or another calming activity) until she can drop the attitude and respect the fact that she's not the only person in the world.

Try to set up some one on one time w/ her to do something enjoyable together where she can talk to you about anything and everything where you will just listen and not get in any trouble for expressing herself... but when it is NOT that special one on one time... she will be respectful or she will be alone in her room or losing privileges one by one until she has an attitude adjustment.

Hormones are wicked and she does need to be able to go off in her room when she is on emotional overload w/out 'fear' of negative repercussions, BUT... she has to learn when that time is that she is aware of being unable to control her outbursts and send herself to cool down... or deal w/ the consequences of being a brat to mom (loss of privileges).

Jodi - posted on 04/30/2016

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Another parent making excuses....I GET that it isn't easy ignoring her, but by your continual attention to her behaviour, you are actually enabling it. Noone said it was going to be easy.

Racheal - posted on 04/30/2016

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I try ignoring her ive got 3 other kids as well. Jordan will cry call my name til i answer her or deal with whatever she wanted. She also wants my attension all the time if one of the others come near me she will be like go away i wanna ask mum something she doesnt but she just thinks the world revoles around her.

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