Stacy - posted on 03/05/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )
Omg I'm so caught in between my daughter and my husband bickering and I'm tired. My daughter is a good kid. 15 yo, stays in church, gymnastics, cheers,sings, works cleaning homes and babysits CVall while maintaining A averages. Her real dad stays MIA and very rarely even pays child support for her or her 12 yo brother.
My husband on the other hand is a good man. He is a wonderful provider. Never misses work, makes sure we have all that we need and has a very giving heart. He's also very smart and can work on anything and fix it. But here's where things confuse me...when he gets mad, which is often, everything he's done out of the kindness of his heart is all of a sudden a burden to him. Its like he keeps notes on all that he does and when things don't go his way he shoves it in our faces. Him and my daughter can't speak without an explosion. Right now they're in each of their bedrooms bc one said something the other doesn't agree with. My husband is very childish and says things like, "No matter what, you'll always put her before me." He doesn't understand that I love them all but that is my child and yes, I will always put her needs first but in a different way. The love for a child and a spouse are two different loves but doesn't mean I don't love one any less than the other. But in his mind I am wrong for thinking that way.
He can be such s jerk and say snide, immature comments that set me off. We verbally fight and half the time my kids don't even want to be here and sure as heck wouldn't subject their friends to this environment. Once he has me mad he then says I'm the one that lost my temper and that he's fine. He makes out like I got upset over nothing. I try to talk to him about how what he says affects us but then he turns everything around on us. Says he's not the problematic one that we are. He complains about not having money yet comes home with a 6 or 12 pack of beer every single day. Says its our fault that were broke. I put up with alot of crap. He demands I go to bed when he does or he gets mad. Goes through my phone. Says I don't do anything around the house. Oh it just goes on and on and on really....advice welcome!!!!!