Vivian - posted on 01/13/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )
My now 15 year old daughter has an IEP for learning disability since kindergarten and has related services of speech, occupational therapy and counseling, but hasn't gone to any of these services since 8th grade. We tried punishment, bribes, forcing her to go (and receiving services outside school) but she resisted all attempts and just stays in her classroom or cafeteria, no matter how long staff persist. I mean literally she doesn't respond to any punishment, bribes, or rewards and resisted staff when they force her to go. She's now in 10th grade. So 2 months ago I and the school decided the services will take place in the classroom/ cafeteria where she is and she refused to comply and got really angry. Then we created a positive behavior support plan. Last week we took her to counseling (outside of school) to find out why she doesn't want to go and she said that these services are only for the ret***ed (I hate that word) and she is not ret***ed. She doesn't want to do it in a private setting because she is "not a re**rd" and feels she doesn't need the help. We told her that receiving services and having an IEP doesn't mean you're dumb and that smart students can receive receiving services and then she stated the contradictory. We have looked for signs of bullying throughout the years to make sure she wasn't bullied because of the services and we asked her countless times if she is being bullied because she receives services and she keeps insisting no one is bullying her. I or my husband or her sister don't single her out or bully her for receiving services. She never failed a class but the services are here to help her socially, with her handwriting and organization skills (she is disorganized and messy).