My daughter has a nice group of friends but she doesn't communicate with me while she's out running around. She has a smart phone but it always seems to be dead when i try to call. I already take her phone at 10;30 at night but can't keep her from snapchat, texting, instagram and twitter. Help

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Zoe - posted on 05/31/2014

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Teen here! A plus for being so concerned!! I had the same issue with my mum a bit ago. Sit down with her seriously (no external distractions) and lay all of your concerns on the table, no matter how irrational they may be. It's important for us to know everything behind your fears because just from reading your intro blurb, the bit about confiscating her phone at 10:30 makes it sound like you mistrust her, and I guarantee you she's picking up on that, instead of you just fearing for her safety. You can buy portable phone chargers, and ask her if she'll use it when need arises. Also, instead of constantly checking up and asking, ask her to text you when she gets there (if it's far) and when she's leaving. This lets her know that you trust her because you aren't hovering over her and she will likely be more forthcoming going forward. My mum has my friends number too, and I quite like it because she has a way to contact me if anything serious arises at home! Hopefully this helps!

Michelle - posted on 05/29/2014

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Is this curfew just for weekends or during the week?
There's no way I would be letting a 16yo out that late during the week. In regards to the phone, make sure it's fully charged before she goes out or she doesn't go.

Rhoda Elizabeth - posted on 05/29/2014

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Her curfew is 11pm. I kept my post short because that's what was suggested. Like I said, good kid, no real problems other than she wears out the battery on her phone by using text, snap chat, facebook and twitter. She says not to worry because if she needs to call me she can use a friends phone. But if I need to call her I have to have all the friend's numbers. She is just rebelling and not wanting me to worry. I'm new to this. sorry if I wan't clear.

Michelle - posted on 05/29/2014

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You really need to give us all the information.
Does she have a curfew during the week/on weekends? Is she sticking to them? Has she agreed to keep in touch with you?
A bit of advice, when you post something it's best to give as much information as possible so we don't have to keep asking questions to be able to help.
From your original post I don't see the problem but if you have an agreement that she will keep in touch with you then yes, there is a problem.

Rhoda Elizabeth - posted on 05/29/2014

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Oh sorry, she's 16. Very good kid, good grades, etc. We're just at that time where friends are the most important thing and I'm trying to keep the parent/child relationship alive. She doesn't think I need to worry about her.

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