My daughter has been potty trained for 9 months now but has recently having wetting accidents. Don't think it is an infection, doesn't show any other symptoms. I'm thinking it is either a control issue or a procrastination issue. Not sure what to do next.

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Laura - posted on 10/06/2012

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this is somthing different my daughter knows when she has to go but somethime she just sit there and skirm and cry then pees herself.this is really making me angry can somebody help!! by the way she is potty train.

Kelly - posted on 01/17/2009

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I found with mine that boys trained later, but once they were trained, they stopped having accidents. That was it. The girls trained earlier, but were bad to have accidents, especially as someone mentioned, on the bathroom floor. My three-year-old will still run to the bathroom and not get her pants down fast enough, and pee on the floor right in front of the potty. They just can't seem to hold it very long. My older daughter still had accidents occasionally the summer before she started kindergarten, but she never has since she started school. My three-year-old did have a urinary infection a few months ago, and then she did start holding it because it hurt to pee. The doctor had to give her something to relax "bladder spasms", to be used as needed. It took her a while to get past that. You might want to get her checked out, even if you don't think its an infection. It can be hard to tell. Good luck!

Bianca - posted on 01/15/2009

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the same thing has happened to my daughter and i thought she had an infection so i took her to the G.P and  he suggested anxiety but after ruling out all the symptoms of that,it turns out that at her age "3" she is just too busy and caught up in whatever it is that she's doing to get to the bathroom in time. i'd say in time she will grow out of it,it will just take a lot of patience and persitence but we'll get there.

Lady - posted on 01/15/2009

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What is she doing when she is having accidents???? My daughter had to be constantly reminded and she was almost 5!!! Little kids sometimes get so intotheir games that they forget to use the potty... If its at night then jus make sure her room doesnt get too cold at night and that she is using the bathrrom before she goes to bed and not drinking too much before bedtime

Taneeka - posted on 01/15/2009

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often times perfectly potty trained children just regress..especially if they are younger...try reminding  her every 45 minutes ... i used to have this problem with the children in my class...if the reminding doesnt help it might be a control issue..but i find more often children just get wrapped up in what they are doing....

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Erin - posted on 01/18/2009

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Has something recently changed in your household, like starting school, someone's work hours changed, someone moved out or a death of a pet or family member?  Sometimes even little changes that may mean nothing to you would really upset a child and cause potty accidents.  I suggest asking about 15 minutes after your child eats or drinks if she has to potty and remind her what a big girl she is when she gets it right.



 



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Ashley - posted on 01/18/2009

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I noticed that with my daughter as she got older. She was potty trained at two and she had wetting issues during growth spirts. Sometimes it takes a while for the bladder to catch up with the rest of the body once they start to grow up.

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could b a stress issue. maybe its just to cold for her to get up at night nd use the bathroom when my son wet the bed it was because he was cold and wetting of course is warm at first

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children of this age may not show classic adult infection symptoms, it is definitely worth checking into.

Elizabeth - posted on 01/15/2009

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Quoting Amanda:



My DD will turn 4 in February. She occasionally pees on the bathroom floor because she can't make it to the potty in time. She just gets distracted and waits to long to go. Also, I have noticed if she has any caffeine, she has a hard time getting to the potty in time.



 





Caffine is a diuretic.  If anyone has stuff with caffine in it, adult or child, it'll make them have to pee a lot more.  It's a generally good idea to not give children caffine, though.  There are plenty of de-caf sodas out there, if children have to drink soda.  Incredibly enough, tap water really is quite safe in most areas of the US, as well.  ^^0  But I know how it can be.  Sometimes it seems like these chemicals are almost unavoidable, no matter how much we don't want our children having them.

Jennifer - posted on 01/15/2009

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does she seem to have the accidents at certain times of the day or after she has already gone to the bathroom? She could have an issue where her bladder doesn't empty all the way and even though she might go to the bathroom her bladder doesn't empty. Sometimes it can depend on how much she is drinking during the day. The time potty's can also work. Good Luck

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My DD will turn 4 in February. She occasionally pees on the bathroom floor because she can't make it to the potty in time. She just gets distracted and waits to long to go. Also, I have noticed if she has any caffeine, she has a hard time getting to the potty in time.

Elizabeth - posted on 01/15/2009

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It could be a combination of both.  You might try setting a timer somewhere and having her sit on the potty every so often (maybe 2 hours apart or so) just to make sure.



But it could be control as well.  Children sometimes don't develop full control over their bladders until later in life.  My husband's sister wet the bed until she was 12 or so.  It's just a matter of central nervous system development.



Try to reward her on days when she goes without a wetting accident, more than punishing her for having the accidents.  I had a bit of a wetting problem when I was a child and my mother set up a poker chip system.  I got so many poker chips per day, one for being nice to grandma, one for taking my vitamins, one for going without an accident, one for just being myself.  So each day I would get at least one poker chip to save up and cash in to her for a toy I wanted that she'd put a poker chip price on, but if I was really good and remembered to go to the potty when I felt the need, I got lots more and got my toy faster.  I remember counting my daily chips out with grandma and being so proud when she one day announced that I didn't need to be reminded to go to the potty any more and now I could get a poker chip for doing something else.  So we picked out a big girl chore I could do for that poker chip.  She's probably old enough to try something like this with, and it'll help you figure out if it's a control issue or procrastination.  Since if she's just procrastinating she'll quickly understand that if she ignores the potty urge to play with her toys, she's going to miss out and bring it on herself.

Taneeka - posted on 01/15/2009

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often times perfectly potty trained children just regress..especially if they are younger...try reminding  her every 45 minutes ... i used to have this problem with the children in my class...if the reminding doesnt help it might be a control issue..but i find more often children just get wrapped up in what they are doing....

Taneeka - posted on 01/15/2009

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often times perfectly potty trained children just regress..especially if they are younger...try reminding  her every 45 minutes ... i used to have this problem with the children in my class...if the reminding doesnt help it might be a control issue..but i find more often children just get wrapped up in what they are doing....

Ashley - posted on 01/15/2009

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not sure how old your daughter is, but we potty trained my son 2 1/2 and he started wetting his pants not long after we thought he was trained...so now we tell him he has to go potty or he will get "uckies" all over his ding dong LOL it seems to work though, and it keeps his pants on him :)

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