My daughter has been potty trained since she was 2 however she still wears a diaper at night. She will be 4 in september and we have been trying to get her to go through the night but I have to wake up every couple of hours and make her use the potty. Is this normal? She can make it with no accidents as long as I wake her up. Any tips or advice?!?!?

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Megan - posted on 06/13/2013

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I have a child who wet the bed nightly (often several times) until he was 8 years old. At first, I just invested in a couple pair of washable, waterproof underwearhttp://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... this webpage has lots to choose from in lots of different sizes even waterproof boxers. And used a waterproof sheet protectorhttp://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... to minimize the laundry.

At the age of seven the bedwetting began to chip away at his self esteem. We solved his bed wetting by using an alarm. A child who wets at night has a sleep pattern in which the brain does not react to the full bladder signal. The alarm gradually trains the child's brain to react. He went from being wet every single night to completely dry in about 6 weeks. The bed wetting alarm http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20?... has given us years of dry nights. Also, a new medical study at Wake Forest Medical Center found that undiagnosed constipation is a major factor in bedwetting as well. So you might want to get the book "Its No Accident" ...http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20/...

My child absolutely loved the children's book, Prince Bravery and Grace - Attack of the Wet Knights http://astore.amazon.com/bravandgrac-20/... . It is the story of a young prince who struggles with "the Wet Knights" and eventually defeats them by using an alarm. It's funny yet empathetic and gave him the understanding and motivation to end the bed wetting. The best advice for parents about how to stop bedwetting I found is the book, Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness, by Renee Mercer. Invest in the books-they make the process so much easier, then an alarm -its the best decision I ever made.www.braveryandgrace.com

LInda - posted on 03/31/2009

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I have 5 grown children. They all were potty trained, quit wetting the bed at different times. When a childs body is ready to quit wetting the bed they will do so. I don't understand why people get so hung up on when their kids are potty trained or when they quit wetting the bed. As long as you introduce them to the potty and let them know what it is for and take them to the potty off and on during the day they will be potty trained when they are ready. Do not make a bid deal about your child not being dry at night. It will not do anything to correct the problem and will only make your child feel self conscience about it. When their body is capable of being dry at night they will be.

Tari - posted on 03/31/2009

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you can try telling her that she needs to sleep in her panties at night. if you keep letting her wear a diaper- she is taking advantage of it! it sounds mean but you have to take it away and let her have an accident. she will learn. you need to get your sleep too! i had to tell my daughter no liquids after 7 pm. that really helped! with my second daughter we have had to use the pull-ups that get cold. she is able to recognize when she needs to get up at night. she isn't quite 2 yet but she is getting it down. good luck to you!

User - posted on 04/02/2009

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Just wanted to add that, if you get them up around the midnight and not fully wake them, let them go potty while still dozy they tend to go potty because of the temperature change out of their bed and when you make a big deal that they are dry in the morning then they quickly switch over to big girl panties, and definetely no liquids three hours before bed.

Diane - posted on 03/31/2009

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stop all liquids by 7pm, or at least 2 hours before she goes to bed. Make sure she goes to the bathroom right before she goes to bed, than when you go to bed or around 3 hours after she has been asleep wake her to go to the bathroom.
Just wanted to add my niece still wets the bed, and she is 9. Sometimes bedwetting can be behavioral. If so seeing a therapist can help.

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Heather - posted on 04/17/2009

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hi l have the same problem, my daughter is 41/2 and was toilet trained at 2 but is still wetting bed at night, ive stopped drinks 1hr before ,l put her on the toilet 3 times atnight she just cant get up at night.

Heather - posted on 04/17/2009

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hi l have the same problem, my daughter is 41/2 and was toilet trained at 2 but is still wetting bed at night, ive stopped drinks 1hr before ,l put her on the toilet 3 times atnight she just cant get up at night.

Barbie - posted on 04/16/2009

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I am an RN and used to work for the Dept of Pediatric Urology at Riley. It is very common for children to have nighttime wetting even into their early adolescence. The first thing you need to do is make sure she is on a regular daytime schedule for both bowel and bladder patterns. Girls tend to me prone to constipation which directly effects their bladder function. So, make sure she is having a soft BM everysingle day. If not pick up some OTC Miralax and mix it in her juice. She will never know :).

The primary reasons for nighttime wetting are overproduction of urine and/or a immature nervous system reaction that doesn't allow them to sense the urge to potty during sleep. DDAVP is typically used to decrease the production of urine and bed alarms are the best treatment for the later. Check out this website for the bed alarm we recommended to parents: http://www.bedwettingstore.com/Bedwettin... I would go that route first. DDAVP is ridiculously expensive and only a temporary fix until their sweet brains mature a little bit.The most difficult part about bed alarms is you have to wake them up and change their pull up every single time they are wet. Which it sounds like that may be a walk in the park for you. Most kids and families who followed the regimen had dry happy kids and moms in about 3 months. My son struggled until he was 6 and one day like the flip of a switch it stopped. Dr. Kirstan Meldrum is a good friend of mine and a partner at Riley Peds Urology. Give them a call if that doesn't work. They are a great group!

Ruth - posted on 04/06/2009

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Every child developes differently. It takes a while for that muscle to be strong enough to hold a full bladder all night. Don't worry about it, she'll stray dry soon. I myself would not wake up my kids to pee. But I guess if you'd rather wake her up every couple hours instead of letting her little body figure it out, that's ok too :o)

Lyndsay - posted on 04/06/2009

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sometimes being cruel to be kind works well. put a rubber mat cover on her bed n leave her wi no nappy on feeling the wet might help her think. plenty of washing but thts how i taught my daughter n she was dry day by 18 months night by 19 months .

Becky - posted on 04/06/2009

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i had the same trouble with my little boy, we just bought the pampers sheets which r always where the nappies r in the shops! there are great they do work, then make sure she doesnt hav a drink for at least an hour before bed if she does need one jus let her hav a little bit! then make sure she goes toilet before she gets into bed. that worked for us an we didnt have to get up in the night there was a couple of accidents but he soon got used to it

Jen - posted on 04/06/2009

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We had a calendar system with my daughter, she put a sticker on in the morning for every day she woke up DRY! If she could make it 2 weeks, then we rewarded her (with a toy she picked out). Every two weeks that she could stay dry, we would let her try panties one night a week (starting on the weekend progessing an additional night a week every two weeks until she could stay dry at least 3 night is a row, then changed to every week) and we always put a piddle pad under her sheet, so she didn't know it was there, but it didn't ruin the mattress. Took about 2 months, but it finally worked.

GOOD LUCK TO YOU!

Sherri - posted on 04/06/2009

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Speak with your pediatric dr. There are so many reasons. You might just find out that nothing is wrong at all. It will at least put your mind at ease. My daughter had no problem during the day but night time was completely different. I really struggled because my friends children seemed to "get it" so easily. We tried watching her liquids. ( some liquids produce more urine than others) ,suspending them entirily after 6pm (her bedtime was 8), I would wake up a couple times a night to take her to the bathroom. It contiued through elementary school. I discussed it with my daughters 1st grade teacher  ( we had become friends) who told me that her son wet the bed until he was 8 or 9. I was encouraged that my daughter would grow out of it. We finally found out that our daughter has scoliosis. It helps just knowing. By the way she no longer has accidents at night. And I'm not saying that your daughter has scoliosis or any health problem. I'm saying there are so many reasons including nothing is wrong and your mind will be put at ease. Please discuss this with your dr. I know you'll be glad you did.  Best of luck and God Bless!

Sherri - posted on 04/06/2009

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Speak with your pediatric dr. There are so many reasons. You might just find out that nothing is wrong at all. It will at least put your mind at ease. My daughter had no problem during the day but night time was completely different. I really struggled because my friends children seemed to "get it" so easily. We tried watching her liquids. ( some liquids produce more urine than others) ,suspending them entirily after 6pm (her bedtime was 8), I would wake up a couple times a night to take her to the bathroom. It contiued through elementary school. I discussed it with my daughters 1st grade teacher  ( we had become friends) who told me that her son wet the bed until he was 8 or 9. I was encouraged that my daughter would grow out of it. We finally found out that our daughter has scoliosis. It helps just knowing. By the way she no longer has accidents at night. And I'm not saying that your daughter has scoliosis or any health problem. I'm saying there are so many reasons including nothing is wrong and your mind will be put at ease. Please discuss this with your dr. I know you'll be glad you did.  Best of luck and God Bless!

Jessica - posted on 04/06/2009

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my daughter is 4 in november nd we have managed to get her out of nappys at night for the first few weeks make sure they go to the toilet be for bed if they dnt wake up during the nite then wake them your self nd make sure they go. my daughter was still havin a bottle at nite as soon as we stopped that she hasnt wet the bed. you could also try not to give her drinks after a certain time. also if she is kickin her covers off her at nite she could get cold nd this also causes bed wettin.

Ashley - posted on 04/06/2009

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You can do the obviouse no liquides after 6 go pee before bed etc. I found that my making them learn to hold it a bit longer strengths there bladder for night time. So everytime they have to go pee during the dat ask them to  hold it for a minute, the 2 minutes etc. After a few weeks there bladder should be strong enough to hold there pee.

Marilynn - posted on 04/06/2009

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It seems like you have gotten some pretty good advice about stopping liquids and the alarms and such.   My son wet the bed up until about 3 months ago.  He is 11 years old.  Some kids fail to produce a hormone which supresses kidney function during the night time hours.  If this is the case, there is nothing you can do to encourage her to be dry during the night.  My pedi told me that it is normal for about 10% of all kids to continue night time wetting until they are 5.  If I were you,  I would stop waking her at night and continue to wear protection at night.  When she is ready, she will stop.

Nola - posted on 04/06/2009

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Are you using disposables? They are so comfortable, the kids do not care if they wet. I found this out with my daughter. Start using a cloth nappy. She will not be so keen.

(Bear in mind also that bed-wetting is also inherited. If the parents wet, so may the child.) DO NOT PUNISH HER.

Stress less!! My brother wet the bed until he was 10. He just couldn't help it. Now his sons are the same. Just use pull-ups if this is the case.

Dora - posted on 04/05/2009

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If you've read up on this topic which I'm sure you have... this is not at all uncommon. I'm sure you've also read that it's more commom in boys but it does happen with girls too. My son wasn't dry at night until he was in his early teens (14ish). That boy struggled with this proble, for so long. It was so frustrating and embarassing... He couldn't/wouldn't go for sleepovers and if he did, he'd be wreck! I suffered right along with him. From about 3 years of age to 5 or 6, we tried everything recommended by our pediatritian, what we had read, what we'd heard! But in the end it took the time it had to take. I'm sorry now about all the pressure I put him thru because I thought he should be dry at night by a certain age. Around 5ish, we decided enough... we'd just put on his pullups and never brought it up unless he wanted to. Of course, there came a time when he would't wear them anymore. He'd get up in the middle of the night and change his pj's and sheets and we had to get new matresses for obvious reasons. It was truly a nightmare! Then literally overnight it stopped. He couldn't believe it. We were so happy for him! And that was it! It was a tough and long road for us but more for him and we didn't realize it soon enuf. I guess what I'm trying to say, if you want to try different things, do so but not at your baby's expense. Learn from my experience,,, put on the pullups and let the kid sleep. And I'm sure you could use a full night's sleep too! You'll see... It's bound to stop one day and then there'll be other things to worry about, that can't be fixed by putting on pullups! BTW if my son knew about this he'd shoot me! So mum's the word! lol Good Luck Kristi! ;)

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My daughter was almost 5 before I tried potty training her at night.  I know this sounds awful, but I just put it off until I realized I really didn't want her to be 5 years old and in diapers.  I woke her up once in the middle of the night for about a week.  After that, she had done very well with getting up when she needs to.  We had 3-4 nights of accidents, but other than that, it went well.  I don't think there is a specific age when you have to have your child trained.  If she isn't ready, tghen take baby steps. 

Chantel - posted on 04/05/2009

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My daughter is the same age. What I did with her is I would quit giving her anything to drink after 6 and her bed time is 9. If shes really thirsty I give her just a sip and thats all. I also make her go to the bathroom at 8 then again right before bed and I didnt have any problems out of her. I also told her if she didnt pee the bed she would get a treat the next morning. I worked for me. Good Luck!

Kate - posted on 04/05/2009

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I have a 4 year old who has only just stopped wearing pull-up pants at night. i find that if he's had a really active day he is more likely to wet the bed if he crashes into a deep sleep. the things i've read just say that kids will grow out of it in their own time. making a big deal out of it will only make the child feel bad, when they are obviously not doing it on purpose. We just make sure he goes to the toilet right before bed and let him know that if he wakes up and needs to go he can call out to us and we'll take him to the toilet. that's worked really well - he would probably be too scared to get up by himself, and we just give him a lot of positive encouragement when he does call out.
hope that helps!

Stacey - posted on 04/05/2009

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I had my son completely potty trained by the time he was 2 1/2. Both day and night. One thing we did was quit giving fluids at least and hour before bedtime and making sure he went to the bathroom 1 hour before bed and then right before bed again. It took us about 2 weeks with that routine to get him completely  potty trained at night. Hope that helps!!

Janet - posted on 04/05/2009

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Try not to give her any drinks a couple of hours before bed time. Then put her on the potty or toliet do this as a routine every nite, just before you go to bed gently pick up her out of bed and sit her on the potty. she will get used to being woken up for the toliet. eventually she will do it for herself. leave a light on for her as well it makes them feel safer than being in the dark. I had three children and i did this my mum told me and it worked just make sure you you protect the matteress and quilt covers you can buy waterproof quilt covers  at a healthcare shop. its hard work but it worked for me and my kids. good luck

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I didn't have this issue with my son, but I know friends that are having the same issue.  We've heard that in many cases, there is a medically explained reason that relates to a developmental stage delayed for some children.  Most every parent I know who experienced this said their child eventually outgrew it by the age of 5.  I"ve heard the keys to success are patience, making sure the child doesn't feel embarrassed or humiliated, no liquids before 7pm and potty time before bed...

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I let mine potty train on their own. They were 2 1/2 when they went on their own during the day, but didn't know when they had to go at night until they were 5. Each child is different and needs to learn their bodies sugnals. I found it is easier on them and you if  it is casual and calm. Less stress on them will help them to feel comfortable and relaxed enough to make that midnight bathroom trip on their own.. It will happen in time.


 

User - posted on 04/05/2009

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my little boy will be 4 in september too and i find that i have to make sure that he doesnt drink at least a hour before bedtime and that he uses the toilet before too. i also wake him up only once through the night normaly when im on my way to bed around 11 or 12 and from then his fine. if anything why not try those bed wet sheets that are sheets made for kids at night in case of accidents. i hope you found this helped gl!

Brandi - posted on 04/05/2009

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My son is 3 and will be 4 in October.  He is wearing nite time pull ups for bed and still wears a pull up for naptime during the day as well.  Sometimes he wakes up dry, sometimes he wakes me up having to go potty and most of the time, he just wakes up wet.  I wish I had the answers becuase I'd fix mine too!  Just know that it's normal right now and when they decide to wake up on their own they'll do it more often.  Make sure to take her potty before she goes to bed too.  If she goes to bed with a bottle or sippy cup that will make a difference if she gets up in the night too.

Brandi - posted on 04/05/2009

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My son is 3 and will be 4 in October.  He is wearing nite time pull ups for bed and still wears a pull up for naptime during the day as well.  Sometimes he wakes up dry, sometimes he wakes me up having to go potty and most of the time, he just wakes up wet.  I wish I had the answers becuase I'd fix mine too!  Just know that it's normal right now and when they decide to wake up on their own they'll do it more often.  Make sure to take her potty before she goes to bed too.  If she goes to bed with a bottle or sippy cup that will make a difference if she gets up in the night too.

Becky - posted on 04/05/2009

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One thing more...I just read the post about leaving the child in the bed, IN his/her accident for an hour in order to gross them out and train them.  I wouldn't EVER accuse a mother that I know nothing about of any sort of abuse, but PLEASE DON'T do that to your daughter.  I cannot imagine the way it would make a tiny little child feel to be forced to lay in the bed in her urine for any amount of time.  It's only an accident - the vast majority of children do not wet their pants on purpose.  Their little bodies are still learning to function in a "big kid" fashion, and should never be punished for wetting their pants.  YES, reward staying dry, and choose not to reward when an accident happens.  But, the whole reason they go to the bathroom in their pants or in the bed is because their body hasn't quite reached the point of being able to completely control that function yet.  I strongly disagree that the methods that particular mom used were effective - her children's bodies got the hang of it in their own times, and it was going to happen that way with or without such a disgusting punishment.

Becky - posted on 04/05/2009

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Clearly, plenty of people have chimed in, but I figured I'd just add to the list here.  Totally agree with the moms that have said there's nothing to rush.  She will get there - nights are just tricky.  Your daughter seems to be like every other potty-trained 4 or 5 year old (with the exception of a slight few that get it the first time around).  My daughter didn't struggle with nights - she struggled during the daytime when she was busy doing something fun or playing with friends, etc., and didn't think about going to the potty, which usually resulted in a small accident before she realized that she really did need to go bad.  That ended a few months into 5 years old.  Your daughter will get it - don't feel bad about her still needing a diaper or pull-up overnight.  Honey, there's a reason Pampers and Huggies make diapers and pull-ups clear up to size 5ish.  =)  Good luck with it!

Krystal - posted on 04/05/2009

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Oh yeah, as far as talking to your doc like lots of others are saying....my doc just told me they won't do anything anymore until a child is 7 or 8. So, unless there are other signs of stuff (frequent urination during the day, extreme thirst, strong odor to her urine) i am sure your doc would say the same thing.

Krystal - posted on 04/05/2009

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My son was 3 when potty trained and 6 just about 7 when he stopped wetting at night. I tried waking him at night to get up and go but it was too much for me. What finally got him going during the night was the fact that his 3 year old brother was getting up and going during the night. He didn't like that his lil bro was wearing underwear to bed and he wasn't :) I guess the only"advice" i can give is to cut off the liquids earlier. And as far as getting up every couple of hours....if you want to stop i would. She should grow outta it soon and do it on her own. Best of luck! Now i have a question for you. My 4 year old daughter is very stubborn. She WILL wake up dry but she won't go on the potty at all. So, we know she CAN do it she just WON"T potty train. Any tips there??

Jeanette - posted on 04/05/2009

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i'm an "older" mom and grandmom. These things take time for some children. You can't rush it. Some chidren have night-time wetness for a long time. One of mine had occsiona bedwetting until they were around eight. Remember Michael Landon? He was a bedwetter for most of his youth.Thank goodness for night-time pull ups for toddlers and young children. Believe me, this will be the least of your worries later on....hang in there.

Brenda - posted on 04/05/2009

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I wet the bed until I was 9 but I was fine during the day...her bladder may not be growing at the same rate she is...ask your Dr. if there is a way to check it out

Carol - posted on 04/05/2009

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my daughter is 4 and she very rarly gets up during the night to go to the toilet abd very rarly has accidents and all i do is no drinks after 7 and get her to the toilet before she goes to bed, hope this helps x

User - posted on 04/05/2009

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My oldest was 9 before he stopped and he was heavy sleeper. He stopped on his own. My youngest at 6 is still doing it, and we had to take diapers off him as he thought it was great and was proud to wear them. I wake him up every night, and will keep doing so. No amount of punishment, reward, psychology or otherwise effected either one. It just came down to hygiene, time washing sheets and sheets and sheets, and now only the occassional accident if I let him drink too much after 5pm. I have no doubt he too will grow out of it. 

Kristy - posted on 04/04/2009

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Our pediatrician told us that some kids' bladders just aren't big enough to last through the night and that it'll come with age.  My daughter wore pullups until she was 5.  When she wore panties to bed it seemed like she always wet, but she always woke up with dry pullups.  When she turned 5 we told her that they didn't make them in her size anymore and that the label on the package said "5 year olds have to start being big girls and wear their big girl undies to bed."  It worked!  And she only had an occassional accident after that.  Good luck!

Anne - posted on 04/04/2009

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Quoting Kristi:

My daughter has been potty trained since she was 2 however she still wears a diaper at night. She will be 4 in september and we have been trying to get her to go through the night but I have to wake up every couple of hours and make her use the potty. Is this normal? She can make it with no accidents as long as I wake her up. Any tips or advice?!?!?



Hi, how are you? I had the same problem with my son he is now 5 and sometimes he still wets the bed if he has to many drinks. I always tried my hardest to get him out of nappies all together by the time he was 3 and a half, but i had no luck, so i had to let him do it all on his own otherwise it would've taken me longer or it would've put him back into nappies full time which has happened to a couple of friends of mine. By the time he turned 4 was when he stopped wearing them at night time, as well.                                                                                                                                                                        I did made sure the mattress was protected so it wouldn't soak through. After about 1 month he stopped wetting the bed, except for when we lost track of how many drinks he had all day on the weekends and if he wouldn't go to the toilet before bed. I gusee the only thing you could try is to put her to bed with no nappy, try to get her to go to the toilet before she goes to bed and try to keep track of how many drinks she has a day and when she does go to the toilet. I know it's alot of work but hopefully my advice will help you or give you an idea. Well Good Luck...



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Ashley - posted on 04/04/2009

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Okay...before you put her to bed...let her sip some water. If you still want to play it safe so she doesn't wet the bed...make sure she has a pull up on when you lay her down. For about a week or two wake her up at the same time everynight and take her to use the bathroom. She may not go the first time but after a couple iof days she will get into thye routine to get up and use the bathroom instead of the pull up.

Cora - posted on 04/04/2009

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If she is drinking water or anything before bed will cuase her to wet the bed. try not letting her drink anything after six and srr if she will go potty befor she gose to bed. If this dose not work ask your doc. there may be a reson she is doing thys.

Janelle - posted on 04/04/2009

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Cut the liquids off a few hours before bed time and make sure she goes to the bathroom right before she lays her head on the pillow. Stop the diaper as soon as you can and for gods sake let the kid sleep through the night. If she wets the bed enough times and you make her clean the bed with you, she will start to feel bad and stop wetting the bed. Plus she needs to feel like a big girl, diapers are for babbies! If you keep the diaper and she wets the diaper, pretty soon she is going to realize that she is one in very few "big girls" that still wears diapers. Good Luck to you. I used a pull up and put big boy underwear over the pull up on my son and he realized soon enough that he didn't like to get Scooby Doo wet with the pee. He stoped wetting the bed the minute I had him clean the mattress with me, he said "Mommy I don't like this, I am a big boy now and I don't want you to have to do this either" He was 2 and he has had no accidents since then. He is 4 now. Once again Good Luck

Holly - posted on 04/04/2009

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I just want to say, be compassionate because it could be something that doesn't go away.  I am 31 now but I "wet" the bed until I was 12 years old and it was humiliating and degrading, withholding liquids and alarms and all that simply may not be the answer, it wasn't for me, and my parents made me feel pretty bad about something I couldn't control at all.  I just had a weak bladder and kind of still do.  Maybe go to the doctor if your concered, there could be new medications out for kids now days.

User - posted on 04/04/2009

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My son slept in a goodnight until he was 6 yrs. old because he didn't wake up through the night. This runs in both sides of my family. We just didn't make a big deal of it and he all of  a sudden began to wake on his own. We also woke him up at night for a while, but then I just decided to let it go. Many girls will wet the bed at night until puberty. My advice is to talk to your doctor for your peace of mind, and then not worry about it.

User - posted on 04/04/2009

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Put a pair of training underpants under the diaper. They hate to feel wet but you won't have to change the sheets. Soon they learn to wake them self before instead of after.

Paige - posted on 04/04/2009

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When my step son was 4, my husband and I decided to put an end to pull ups at night. It wasn't always easy, but we tried and it worked. We started by no drinks or food one hour before bed, then he would go to the bathroom right before sleep time. Say he went to bed at 8pm, we would wake him up at 12:30am every night for 6 months. It was hard because we did share him with his biological mother and she had a big lazy streak and didn't help in the process very well. He used to backtrack whenever he was with her. Eventually, we were fortunate enough when she moved away for a year. It was then we were able to stabilize our child and after about 6 months of constantly waking him up at the same time, his bladder became used to the routine and he was able to get himself up to use the bathroom or at least sleep right through till morning. Even though he is nearly 7 now, he still has the occasional accident. Not often but it does happen, more with boys than with girls. It doesn't help having his biological mother back in town stirring things up, that can cause stress to his normal routine causing a change in his cycle therefore he isn't able to wake himself up at night to go to the bathroom. If this happens to anyone like it has us, the best thing to do is go back to the routine of waking them up in the night to go. It's stressful but well worth the patience.  GOOD LUCK!!!





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Wetting the bed is usually not a controlled thing. It is a hormone thing. They have medicine for it, and it really does work. I wet the bed for years, and my parents tried everything. I was embarrassed and ashamed, but now know that it was truly uncontrollable. The theory of "be a big girl" is demeaning to her, she can't help it. I suggest you visit with your pediatrician about it, and make sure nothing else is going on, but really believe it's just the hormone deal. Please dont compare your child to any other or put the guilt on her, she REALLY doesn't want to wet the bed, and has no control over it. Do not embarrass or punish, it will damage her emotionally and mentally.

Natasha - posted on 04/04/2009

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my son was potty trained from the age of 2 aswell, but was still wearing his nappy at night, (my son is now 3yrs 4mnths old) i decided to try with his nappy off, i told him that he was a big boy now, and that mummy and daddy dont do 'wee wees' in bed. i put his potty on his floor next to his bed and reminded him to use it if needing a 'wee'. i also bought a matress cover for his bed so matress didnt get distroyed. he has 1/4 of a cup of milk before bed now, raer than a bottle in bed, and uses the toilet before bed, it has worked , and has only had about 4-5 accidents in a year. keep reminding them that they are very clever, and not babies any moe. this worked for us, but all children are different!

Kerry - posted on 04/04/2009

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going on my own experience with my 3 who have all been different so far - my son who is now 6 was toilet trained by 18months but still has the odd accident now.  my eldest daughter who is now 5 has never had an accident in bed and has always had pants on from the first day she started using the toilet.  my youngest daughter who i am in the process of toilet trainging has gone from kicking and screaming at the mere sight of the toilet to using it without a problem now and no accidents so far.  i had to refuse to put a nappy on her during the day to get her this far lol but she can't stay dry at night.  i limit her drinks after tea time and i've tried her in bed without a nappy to see if the uncomfortable feeling of being wet will do the trick, but it doesn't work  i think it just depends on the child and when they are ready themselves 

Kelli - posted on 04/04/2009

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Here's what I did with my son: I would have him go to the bathroom right before he went to bed. I would wake him up and make him go again when I went to bed. I would wake up in the middle of the night to go the bathroom myself and then would go wake him up to go to the bathroom too. I did it for a few months and he finally started doing it on his own. Although, there were some nights I didn't get him up but it's all trial and error. Hope it helps!!

Lisa - posted on 04/04/2009

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All children are differant, ive had 8 children n all of them have done things at differant times, i learnt all kinds of things along the way, n one thing that i must say, dont try n rush the child, you can listen to people who say my child done this n that, please dont feel infeariar.!!! all us mums learn these things along the journey of motherhood. I have read all your messages n you can try all of these ideas but dont stress yourself about it. our life is stressfull enough.Lol.xxx

Jessica - posted on 04/04/2009

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my son was going through the same thing at that same age.  it all depends on what her bedtime is.....if it's 8:00pm then don't let her have anything to drink after 7:00pm.  Also make sure she goes potty right before she get's into bed.  If a hour before her bedtime doesn't work then make it a hour and half.  If shes really thirsty then let her have tiny sips......however...if she is going potty alot during the night and during the day then I would talk to your doctor about it......frequent urination is a sign of a couple of things...  GOOD LUCK!!!

LeighAnn - posted on 04/04/2009

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My son is 5 and still weras pull ups through the night. They say that most kids have night problems untill 7 or even 10 I would not be too stressed about it. it is normal.

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