My daughter has just got engaged.. Her bf asked her father's permission(we are divorced and don't talk)) I feel he should have asked my permission as well.. Any idea's?

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Holly - posted on 10/18/2012

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ha ha ha wow, even when couples ARE married, the father is the only one asked..... pick up your big girl panties and move on... this is your DAUGHTER'S big day, try not to make everything about you.

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Dove - posted on 10/18/2012

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Technically he didn't have to ask either of your permission. It was just a nice gesture and is 'traditionally' asked only of the father... even when the parents are together.

Amy - posted on 10/18/2012

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As my father told my husband when he asked him if he could marry me "she's not property she can marry who she wants". I'd let it go if you and your daughter are close you'll be much more involved in the planning portion of her marriage then her father will be.

Jodi - posted on 10/18/2012

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Just a thought, rather than make a fuss over this issue, could you approach your daughter about wanting to be involved in "giving her away"? I had both my parents give me away because my mother wanted to be a part of it (my parents are still together though), and it was really nice to have both parents give me away (from a daughter's perspective).

S. - posted on 10/18/2012

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I agree 100% with jodi, the bf has fallowed tradition and it is traditional just to ask the father of the bride. With wedding there's lots of tradition involving the father of the bride so if your daughter is going to get married it might be a idea to try and deal with the you issues with her dad if you can. If not you may have to just grin and Bare it for your daughters sake because weddings are stressful enough.

Jodi - posted on 10/17/2012

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I suggest not making a fuss over it. I'd just leave it alone. How was the boy supposed to know that's how you felt? Traditionally, only the father is asked. You'll just make it uncomfortable if you try to insist on it, so let it go.

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