My daughter hates me

Jerry - posted on 12/25/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I'm sorry, I'm not a mom, but I need help! I have a 20 year old daughter who hates me and I have messed up the relationship. I thought I was doing every right to raise her, but I know know I have not been a great father. I want to fix myselve and our relationship and need help. I hope someone can give me some good advice. Thanks.

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Dove - posted on 12/25/2015

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If she does not want to communicate w/ you and you are constantly calling and texting her... it's likely that she will continue to not want to communicate as she may feel you are harassing her.

I do not know what your issues are, but perhaps you can let her know that you love her and want to rebuild your relationship w/ her, but you are going to stop messaging her for a few months while you focus on your counseling. Let her know that SHE can contact you at any time during the next few months if she would like... but you are going to wait a while and give her some space and sort yourself out a bit. Maybe even give her a specific date a few months out that you will wait to contact her again... and then stick to that date.

Just to let you know... I had virtually no relationship w/ my mom from 16-25 years old, but for the past 14 years she has been VERY important to me... so while I don't know what the issues between the two of you are I 'can' kind of relate from the child side of things... and needing some space.

Jerry - posted on 12/25/2015

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Thanks for you response Michelle. I guess it's difficult to express my thoughts and emotions. To start, I didn't have a father growing up so I didn't have an example to follow. I thought I was doing a good job, keeping her safe, teaching her right from wrong and doing what fathers do. She is a wonderful lady and I'm proud if her. But I have found out recently that I'm not in touch with my feeling and express them even worse. I am going to concilimg now to get in touch with my feelings and how to better communicate them. But she has sense stopped talking to me and won't respond to me. I want to fix this and am trying very hard. I keep calling and texting her but she does not respond. I am looking for advice on how I can make the contact and work on mending our relationship. And you asked why I just realized this now that she is and adult, it's because I'm a man (very slow learner).

Michelle - posted on 12/25/2015

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It helps if you let us know a bit more. Why have you not been a great Father? Why are you only now realizing when she's an adult? What do you need to fix in the relationship.
You won't get any answers with such a vague post.

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