My daughter is 2 months old and will not sleep in her crib any idea's as of what i can do

Melissa - posted on 01/28/2010 ( 26 moms have responded )

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i dont know what to do so have been sleeping on the couch with her, and i dont want her to get into sleeping on the couch with mommy.

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Everyone is different, and have different ideas about child rearing. I raised 5. Every one of them slept in the bed with my husband and me until they were ready to sleep alone. Each one of them had moved to their own bed by the time they were 18-24 months. Before I had the first one, I thought that I would NEVER let them sleep in my bed. Looking back, I wouldn't have had it any other way. They knew that I was there for them anytime, day or night. I think that helped to develop the close relationship that I have with all of them. But, as I said everyone has different ideas, hope that you get some advise from some of us that will fit your situation and help you. Enjoy being a mom!

Melissa - posted on 01/28/2010

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Thank-You so much everyone, ill give it a try and when i put her in there she wakes right up and starts to cry

Jennifer - posted on 01/28/2010

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Try putting a shirt that you wore for awhile in the crib with her. Put a heating pad on the crib mattress for about 10 minutes before putting the baby down to warm up her bed a little so it is not such a shock. If she likes to be swaddled, do it tight. Try one of the many baby lullaby cds that are out there. My daughter loves her's alot, we have to play it every night all night long for her to sleep.What does she do if you put her in her crib? Maybe if I knew I could help a little more. Hope what I did give you helped.

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Stacy - posted on 12/14/2013

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My daughter is 2 months old and will not sleep on her back or in her crib. She falls asleep on my chest and as soon as I go to move her she wakes up and cries. I can't let her cry. She is my first baby and it breaks my heart. She sleeps in her bouncer sometimes. But it seems to me she just likes to have mommy close. I keep hearing though that if you have your baby in the bed with you that it can cause SIDS or if I let her sleep on her belly "which she loves" so I don't know I'm freaking out. I know anytime I hear her my fiancé and I are wide awake. I also have my alarm set for every 3 hours to get up and check on her. I'm scared😢

Paige - posted on 02/06/2010

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I could not do the whole "cry it out method" I just can't imagine listening to my baby cry for a long period of time.



What I do, I feed her in a rocking chair and it makes her drowsy. Then I will put her in her crib while she is still awake, wind up her mobile and by the second time the mobile goes around she is out like a light. If she gets a little fussy, I just give her her soother and she is out! Always worked for me! She sleeps from about 930pm at the latest until 730-830am and she is only 4 months old! She has been sleeping in her crib since she was 2 months old! I used to have to rock her until she was passed out but I dont do that anymore.



For the first little bit after she was born, for us to get any sleep, she would only sleep in her car seat! We tried everything and it seemed like it was the only thing that would work. I know you aren't supposed to do it but my doc told me it was okay. We were just so exhausted and needed sleep! Even before we tried the whole car seat thing, for the first week she was home, the only place she would sleep was in her vibrating chair..they say that babies think the crib is "too big". She loved sleeping on my chest..I would let her sleep there for like half hour to make sure that she was sleeping, then try to move her and she would wake up as soon as I tried to move her!



It does take some time but before you know it (hopefully) she will be sleeping in there!



I hope that everything works out for you! :)

Debbie - posted on 02/06/2010

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Oh I remember going through this. It was hard. I had to just put her in her crib at bedtime, go into the next room and let her cry herself to sleep. It took a week but she was fine after that.

Lindsey - posted on 02/06/2010

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Sleep rhythms develop around 4 months of age. That is when you can start the "cry it out method" if you so chose. Up until that point help your daughter be as well rested as possible. My daughter wouldn't sleep anywhere but her swing, you can try that? Good luck and happy sleep vibes!

Kristina - posted on 02/04/2010

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my son was the same way. he is now 11months old. What i did was just hold him and rock him a little longer, then slowly put him down in his crib. also I would let him sleep wih my t-shirt because it smelled like me.

Melissa - posted on 02/02/2010

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Thank-You For Shirt Tip Jennifer Thorson It Acually Work :)

She Slept In Her Crib The Hole Night LastNight, And Thanks Everyone Elese

Chrissy - posted on 01/28/2010

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My daughter gave me the same problem, I tried to have her sleep in the bouncer and in the swing, nothing worked. Then we bought a small pack and play. It really helped. We'd put it in our room at night and she slept in it in the living room during the day, while I cleaned and did whatever. She actually started sleeping more which meant I was sleeping more.It was the Graco travel lite crib. It has wheels and is slim so it can be moved from room to room without being taken apart. And you can take it anywhere you go, and it's nicely priced. We got ours at babysrus for I think $79.99.



Some babies can't get into a routine yet, some can. I know mine couldn't and we did try almost everything. I myself personally(and ladies please don't flip out over this) think that it's cruel to let them cry it out so young, because they aren't able to self soothe yet. When they cry it not just because they are in the big crib they could be hungry or wet, and you can't ignore that. But it's your choice, you have to figure out what's comfortable for you and your baby. I know this way helped us.If you decide to try your own way it does NOT mean that you are going to be stuck in a bad routine for life. My daughter is 4 months now and she is in a in a good solid routine now.



Also I don't know about your little one but mine hated to be swaddled with a blanket, she'd always kick herself out. We used the Halo sleep blankets with the swaddle attachment, that helped her sleep also.

Nicole - posted on 01/28/2010

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my baby boy slept in the bassinet portion of the pack n play until he hit the weight limit. Then we still didn't have a crib for him yet so he slept in the bottom of the pack n play. He just turned 10 months and has only been in his own bed since november. Also, I have always put him in his crib/ bed everytime he is sleeping..... unless of course we are away from home. Oh, also..... for like the first 3 months I slept on the couch while he slept at the end of the couch in the bassinet portion of the pack n play, then we moved the pack n play into our room and I started sleeping in the bed again. Really, it didn't matter where I slept/sleep because my husband works 12am-8am so I sleep by myself anyway; as does he during the day. Now that he is in his own room in his own bed I simply keep a baby monitor on when he is sleeping.

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my son wouldnt sleep in his crib at that age either. (1) stop sleeping with him if you dont plan on co-sleeping long term because it will be hard to break. (2) all daytime naps should be in the crib. basically anytime she sleeps it should be in the crib this way she associates it with sleeping and it becomes familiar to her (3) rock her to sleep, nurse her to sleep whatever works just put her in the crib after so she always wakes up there. we started doing these thing when my son was 2 months and before he turned 3 months he was sleeping in his crib thru the night. he is breastfed and an as an added bonus he went from feeding every 2 hours at night to every 8 hours once he was in a seperate room from me. :) good luck!

Rachel - posted on 01/28/2010

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Also instead of putting baby in the crib lenghtwise, put a pillow in one side of the crib and put baby in the other with her head at the back of the crib, against the wall. This will give her the impression that it is a smaller space and she may feel more comfortable there, for now.

Rachel - posted on 01/28/2010

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I put a shirt that I have worn in the crib with my almost 2 month old. The smell of "mommy" comforts them and gives them the sense that mommy is close by. My mom also told me that she would use a sleep positioner and put a pillow case that she had slept on over the positioner. Good luck.

Lyndall - posted on 01/28/2010

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Both of my boys were like this. Would sleep on a mat on the floor, in the bounder, on me but not in the cot during the day - night time was fine.. Eventually, when they got to about 3 1/2 months I bit the bullet and just put them in the cot & let they cry for a little while. I didn't take more than a couple of weeks for it all the settle down.

Amber - posted on 01/28/2010

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i have found that a laundry basket is comfy and cenvenient. my Nixie will pass out and sleep longer in the laundry basket, than anywere else. i just use a flat pillow and put it in the basket and she feels like she is being snuggles becasue everything is so close to her. my baby is about a month and a half and is starting to grow out of the basket. this is when i wish they made extendo-baskets. it's absolutly amazing. she also sleep in her bouncy chair often. being propped up a little bit makes it easier for her to breath as well. she's kind of a wheezer and putting her in her chair and turning on the vibrations knocks her out for al most twice as long as when i put her in her bassinet.

Terra - posted on 01/28/2010

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sometimes you just have to let her cry it out! i lived in a basement until my daughter was 6 months old and so she was used to sleeping with me and being rocked to sleep so that she did not wake her dad up! wne we got our own place i started making her sleep in her own room i used the baby cds gave her a bottle and turned her night light on she cryed the first few times but i never let her cry longer then a hour and once she realized i was not going to take her out then she started going right to sleep! ever since then i can no longer rock her to sleep and she refuses to sleep any where besides her crib!

Joanna - posted on 01/28/2010

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There are many things that you can try~ Some babies just arent ready for that *BIG* bed (To them it is A Big Space) Have you tried a Bassinet or Cradle, there alot smaller~ more comforting maybe~ I know some other * Wild* Technics that people have tried & they've worked.... My sister ended up Putting my Neice in a Dresser Drawer, Open of course,Not in the Dresser~ & Kindra went right to sleep* lol~ also A Laundry Basket** Blankets down first of course,we spent a cpl wks At my brothers house when my Daughter was A baby & we had no where to fit her Bed, they took the Lid completly off of A Wicker Chest,Put Blankets in it & SHe Loved it* she didn't want to come out of it & She Slept all night** Many things you can try** just be sure she's ventilated very well, & secure to be safe~

Emilie - posted on 01/28/2010

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I used to let my daughter sleep in the bed with me, until I heard about a mother that accidentally suffocated her baby while sleeping, so I started putting my daughter in the bassinet. We had one that played music and vibrated. I think that really helped her sleep better.

Angela - posted on 01/28/2010

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Not to worry. At this time she is just wanting to be comfy, and she wont get used to sleeping on the couch. My first son only slept in his car seat for the first 3 months. So we would just put him in the car seat and put the whole thing in his crib (we didnt just want him on the floor, or a table and risk him falling off in an earthquake or something). Soon after 3 months, he just liked being put down in his crib. My second son only slept in his swing most of the time. I would be on the couch. They always fell into a nice routine after 3months. Keep trying the crib every night. Even after mid-night feedings. She will eventually get it.

Tabitha - posted on 01/28/2010

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The best thing you can do is when she is asleep and i mean KNOCKED OUT take her to her crib lye her in their pat her bak kick rock her a little soothing and her it will be a slow process to get her use to be in their. Its a long road but good luck

Jennifer - posted on 01/28/2010

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I had a little problem too, when my daughter came home from the NICU. We got into a routine that seems to help. We get her sleeper on (I don't bath each night due to dry skin), swaddle her, give her a bottle and then rock her for a few minutes. We put her in her crib when she is still a lita tle drowsy, not fully asleep. It seems to work, if she fusses a bit we try her pacifier.



We also received a Swaddle-Nest as a baby shower gift. The easiest way to explain it is it's a mini bed. It has a mattress and also a little pillow type thing that you can prop up a little after a feeding to help with spit up. It also has a nightlight and plays a lullaby or a heartbeat sound. there are also positioners that wrap around the mattress to help keep baby from flopping all over. It seems to help our daughter feel comfortable in her bed

It says it is helpful when trying to transition to crib...can also be used as co-sleeper, but I have not tried it (says it on the box) Our daughter is very comforatble on it.....it has also helped her with her little reflux issue because we can prop her up a little.



On tough nights I sometimes throw her swaddler in the dryer to warm it up and that also seems to help ( I don't do it too often because then she might get used to that too!)



Hope this helps!

Cristy - posted on 01/28/2010

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Why the couch? You could start by moving her to the bed so there is space between you and bub so that bub gets use to not touching you when sleeping then gradually move to cot.

Miranda - posted on 01/28/2010

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I did a routine with our daughter. Bath first, then feed her and read to her at the same time as feeding. Then, she would drift off to sleep and then I would gently put her in her crib. Some say not to do this, but this is what I did and it works for us. When she's older we won't do this anymore, but that is how I got my daughter to get used to her crib. And, I also put her in her crib during her naps. Babies are supposed to associate their sleep time with their cribs and nothing else. I also bought the book, What To Expect in the First Year. And, it helps with stuff like this too. My girlie likes her crib now, but she put up quite a fight in the beginning. So, don't give up. She'll eventually get the hang of it...if you're consistent. :) Hope this helps.

User - posted on 01/28/2010

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put her in the crib and leave her there, go in when she cries, give her a bottle/nurse her, burp, diaper, back in crib. if you don't set a routine and stick to it, than you will battle this forever. Good luck

Amanda - posted on 01/28/2010

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I don't know what to tell you except if you keep doing it she will expect it and to get any sleep at all you will have to do it. She is young yet its time to break it now... As hard as it may be any time she falls asleep put her down. She might wake up but if you continue to put her down every time she will eventually get used to it. Hope it works out for ya!!

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