my daughter is 22 and she's married and have a 1 month old baby, but she don't call me to let me know how they are doing, she says she's busy with the baby and she has no time not even to answer my texts. I just want to know how they are doing? How can I aproach this? any advice?

Roxana - posted on 03/08/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 22 and she's married and have a 1 month old baby, but she don't call me to let me know how they are doing, she says she's busy with the baby and she has no time not even to answer my texts. I just want to know how they are doing? How can I aproach this? any advice?

I always give them their space, I respect that she's an adult and have responsibilities. But it would not hurt for her to say Mom we are doing find.

I never call everyday, just once a week to see how they are doing? But she continues avoiding me and all the family as well.

It's this normal? Can any body tell me what to do in this case?

thank you.

roxy

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Michelle - posted on 03/08/2012

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She is a first time mom this is very normal give her time to bond with the little one and eventually she will reach out but right now she is most likely thinking I want all this for myself for just a little while. Don't call every week maybe once a month she really is busy with that new baby.

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Amy - posted on 03/09/2012

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How well do you know this guy in her life? You say before she got married you were very close, was she still close during the dating process, did she begin isolating herself before the baby or after? Is it possible her new husband is trying to cut her away from her family?



Have you tried sending an e-mail, maybe that would be a more effective form of communication.

Sarah - posted on 03/09/2012

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Could it be that she's very overwhelmed or depressed? A sign of depression is withdrawal and if she was close to you before I would be a little concerned. Maybe can you visit under the guise of helping her with the baby, give her some naps, make some meals she can freeze and then take out to make it easier on her? Sometimes just having your mom there is all someone needs. I know I didn't have my Mom around when I had my kids. It was very hard.

Roxana - posted on 03/08/2012

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Thank you Michelle,

That's what I'm going to do, and wait until her time it's right. I'm always being very close to my own mother and that's how I raised my children as well. Before she got married and had the baby, we were always very close.

I guess times change and it's a new generation, I just have to get used to it and give her time.

Thank you for your advice!

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