My daughter is 8 months old, My husband and I wanted to go out on a date. But she cries and literally won't stop! what do I do to help ease her separation anxiety?

Rosalia - posted on 03/09/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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For example, when we leave the room she throws a fit. I don't want it to be that way. We work, and they are different shifts. So, we never used a baby sitter that much anymore and now she absolutely will not stay with anyone. And she will not calm down.. help :(

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Deidre - posted on 03/09/2012

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I would definitely hold off on the actual date. Only because you want to be able to actually enjoy your time out. Why go through all the fuss and muss of dressing up and spending money on a place and then your mind really isn't there?



Start by inviting individuals to visit. She needs to be exposed to other people in general. Have the person interact with her while you are there. It's all about slowly and consistently doing this. She will cry. Period. That is going to be how it is. But, at some point she will feel safe letting someone else help her. Try cooking a meal in the kitchen while the visitor interacts with her in the living room. Next start by going to the market while she is left with that visitor. It's all about gradual transition. This may be something that you guys have to deal with through each age group or stage she's in. Might as well get into this process of transition now so you will have it mastered in the near future. Just start over, guys it is for your own health. Everybody needs a break once in awhile, even though I don't get one. I am a single mother of 3 active boys. My dilemma is having folks who are willing to watch 3 at a time!!! LOL

Elizabeth - posted on 03/09/2012

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Deidre is exactly right. Excellent advice.



I'd like to add that your child will also play off of your emotions. If you are feeling hesitant..she will know and react accordingly. So when she does finally achieve a level of comfort with someone ..try not to feel anxious when you leave.

Brianna - posted on 03/09/2012

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u need to just start leaving her with other people for short amounts of time to start getting her used to it. like when ur mom visits well u and hubby leave for 1 hour or something. just slowly getting her used to it.

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Stifler's - posted on 03/10/2012

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Take her in the pram, go at her bed time. Give her a bottle before you go. Rock her to sleep with a blanket over the pram to make it dark then order and enjoy. We did this every week until Logan turned 1 and just wanted to screech and not sleep.

Rosalia - posted on 03/09/2012

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We have not been going anywhere at all, is the thing.. I just worry tht they're not gonna have the nerves to handle her as well

Elizabeth - posted on 03/09/2012

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Good news...this will pass. This is a phase most babies go through.



Hold off on the dates for a bit.

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