My daughter is a college freshman texting a 24 year old guy she met at work here at home.

Brenda - posted on 08/28/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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They are texting non-stop and she says they are just friends. He seems like a nice guy but has a past. I fear she won't get the chance for the whole "college experience" or meet any new friends if this continues. We have asked her to be responsible and tell him she can't have late night conversations and has to limit them during the day, but I don't think it has helped much. We pay for her phone.
She says she can handle it, so what can a parent do?

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Taylor - posted on 08/31/2013

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She is over 18, you need to back off a little.
If you do pay for her phone and you don't want her speaking to this guy.. then turn her phone off and tell her she needs to pay for her own.
She's in college.. if she wants to have a relationship of any sort with a guy... she should be able to.

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Ev - posted on 08/28/2013

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As long as she is over 18, she is an adult and you can worry for her all you want to but the bottom line is telling her to keep the texting down to a minimum and so on is going to backfire on you. Also its time if she is working to pay for her own phone if you do not want to be paying for her text messages.

Brenda - posted on 08/28/2013

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I'm sure it will be ok, just me worrying. Mom's never stop worrying even when the kids are out of the house. She is a full time student now, not working so we are paying for the phone because we want to be able to hear from her and her from us. She has texted almost everyday and called a few times. We will just see how it goes. We can turn off the texting portion if it becomes a problem later, hopefully things will calm down in a week or two.

Gena - posted on 08/28/2013

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dont worry to much,i met my husband when i was 19 and he was 36... as you can see we are very happily married soon 5years have a wonderful son and a great relationship.She is old enough to make her own desicions.But maybe you should talk to her about paying towards the phone bill.

Brenda - posted on 08/28/2013

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She's 19 and is a great girl. Never in trouble, good grades. The kind of girl every guy wants to marry. She has only had one other relationship (non-sexual) when she was 16, he was 18. He left for college and quit after 9 weeks, came home and she broke it off with him for a number of reasons. He was very recluse and my daughter is fairly outgoing. My fear is that this new guy isn't giving her space to find out who and what she is and wants. The new guy seems nice, works 3 jobs and has a book published, and lives in a house with a roommate. Seems responsible but lives a different lifestyle. We are non-drinkers, he drinks mainly with work associates. He had one other relationship (sexual) and he told my daughter about it. I probably don't have to worry, she is 19 and it is her life. But my husband and I can't help but worry about her.

Gena - posted on 08/28/2013

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Sorry i actualy shouldnt have asked about his past.As long as it is past and doesnt have problems now.

Gena - posted on 08/28/2013

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How old is your daughter and what kind of past does he have? Has it got to do with drugs or other criminal acts?

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