My daughter is called Hannah, she is turning 16 this week and is saying that she wants a huge house party for her sweet 16 but she is feeling the need to be valued and popular so she will try to invite hundreds of kids which is way too much for the house but she does not understand that. she also has a boyfriend which she has been with for 1 year but she has broken up with him so many times, she has been accused of cheating for those breakups (5 or 6 times) she is also might be taking drugs but i am not sure of this... is there anyway which i can talk her into understanding what we as parents are trying to say?

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Nikki - posted on 09/13/2011

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Is she on birth control? If not I would get her on the pill as soon as possible. I would start taking privileges away, does she have a phone, or computer that you can take away if she does not listen? Or she leaves the house without your permission.

Spenavi - posted on 09/12/2011

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yes we have tried so much, whenever we do make choices and say no, we try to keep calm but she never listens, she gets angry and leaves the house to see her boyfriend and we are sure that they have done alot of sexual activity as she has gone to my husband and told him that she might be pregnant but luckily she wasnt, we dont know what to do when she leaves the house

Nikki - posted on 09/12/2011

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I would talk to her about the genuine reasons you have for not wanting a huge party. Which could include, the risk of under age drinking, property damage, being responsible for that many children, having to answer to other parents, fights, accidents that could happen which you would be responsible for.

Then I would try and find a compromise that you are both happy with. If this is not possible just say no, let her know that you understand how she is feeling but you will not be responsible for such a large party under your roof. Yes she most likely will not be happy with your decision but sometimes as parents we have to make unpopular choices.

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