my daughter is dating

Kebadire - posted on 12/06/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I discovered that my 18 year daughter is dating older guys than her, 25yrs guy, who do a talk to her about dating older guys at her age, this is stressing me

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/07/2015

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The biggest concern I would have is (if you are in America) legal drinking age is 21, and he clearly would have access. Also discuss safe sex, not lying about dating other people, etc. She can play the field if she wants.....just encourage safety. In the whole scheme of life, 7 years isn't a huge difference in age, but he definitely has more life experience which can be tricky. If she is still in high school, he might be a bit of a tool. If she is serious about either one of these guys, invite them to dinner (seperately). The more you push them away, the more she will sneak around and do what she wants.

Raye - posted on 12/07/2015

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Your daughter is 18, and can date older guys if she wants to. Many people date more than one person while they're trying to figure out who might be the better companion. And as long as none of them believe the relationship is exclusive, then it shouldn't be a problem. If she's leading them on, and lying about seeing other people, then that is playing with fire (as Jodi put it). And she may get burned, but that would be a lesson to her not to play those kind of games.

Back in my early 20's there was a guy that was 19 years older than me that was interested in dating me. We talked a few times, and I didn't have much in common with him, and I let him know I wasn't interested in dating him. My first husband was 12 years older than me, and we had quite a bit in common, but he was still rather immature, so that didn't work out. It's likely your daughter will realize that the older guy is a bit creepy for wanting to date an 18 year old. And if they don't have anything in common, there's no basis for a long term relationship. So, it may be over soon without your interference. If you try too hard to get her away from those men, you might be pushing her closer to them (the forbidden fruit).

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Kebadire - posted on 12/11/2015

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thank you ladies for advices and courage, hope I will have a good strength to talk to her and gives you feedback.

Gena - posted on 12/07/2015

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I agree with Jodi,you should talk to her about dating 2 guys at a time. Ps i was 19 when i met my 36yr old husband. Still happily married :)

Jodi - posted on 12/07/2015

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OK, I'd be concerned about that too....not because she is 18, but she is playing with fire. Have you addressed this with her (around the dating 2 guys at once, not the being 18 thing).

Jodi - posted on 12/07/2015

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She is 18. She is an adult. Why is it stressing you? Is she dating guys (plural) or A guy?

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