my daughter is dating
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~â¥Little Miss - posted on 12/07/2015
The biggest concern I would have is (if you are in America) legal drinking age is 21, and he clearly would have access. Also discuss safe sex, not lying about dating other people, etc. She can play the field if she wants.....just encourage safety. In the whole scheme of life, 7 years isn't a huge difference in age, but he definitely has more life experience which can be tricky. If she is still in high school, he might be a bit of a tool. If she is serious about either one of these guys, invite them to dinner (seperately). The more you push them away, the more she will sneak around and do what she wants.
Raye - posted on 12/07/2015
Your daughter is 18, and can date older guys if she wants to. Many people date more than one person while they're trying to figure out who might be the better companion. And as long as none of them believe the relationship is exclusive, then it shouldn't be a problem. If she's leading them on, and lying about seeing other people, then that is playing with fire (as Jodi put it). And she may get burned, but that would be a lesson to her not to play those kind of games.
Back in my early 20's there was a guy that was 19 years older than me that was interested in dating me. We talked a few times, and I didn't have much in common with him, and I let him know I wasn't interested in dating him. My first husband was 12 years older than me, and we had quite a bit in common, but he was still rather immature, so that didn't work out. It's likely your daughter will realize that the older guy is a bit creepy for wanting to date an 18 year old. And if they don't have anything in common, there's no basis for a long term relationship. So, it may be over soon without your interference. If you try too hard to get her away from those men, you might be pushing her closer to them (the forbidden fruit).
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