my daughter is giving me the silent treatment because I care for her education, help?

Kiara - posted on 05/29/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




She has been having trouble in math, she's not getting it, and I want her to be as smart as she can b . And her dance lessons 3 times a week don't help. So I made her quit dance and now she has a tutors for two hours a day. Now my teenage daughter won't even look at me. The last thing she said to me was "you want me to be bored all the time do you!?"

I don't mean to make her upset, but I'm the parent. And I believe the tutoring will do her some good. But she doesn't seem to get it. She thinks I'm punishing her. Now she won't even look at me. I try to get her to open up to me and tell me why she feels this way, but no luck, any help


Dove - posted on 05/29/2013




Tutoring is a good idea... and limiting the dance might also be a good idea, but taking away a teenager's passion (if dance IS her passion) is a recipe for disaster. I am all in favor of putting school first and working to your full potential... but there IS more to life than just academics. Isn't it possible for the two of you to work out a balance? Maybe dance only once or twice a week until the grades come up and tutoring on the days that she doesn't have dance.... Taking away a child's passion IS a punishment... and it's really not fair unless there is absolutely no other way.

My daughter is a gymnast.... and she would have to be failing EVERYTHING in order for me to even consider eliminating the gym. Miss a class here and there for bad behavior or something... absolutely, but I will never take the gym away from her unless I have absolutely no other choice. It gives her passion and a focus... and that is just as important (and sometimes MORE important) for a kid as academics.

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