My daughter is in 8th grade and is struggling with friendships

Shannon - posted on 09/02/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My daughter is so sweet, loving, caring and has many many friends outside of school on her sports teams but just doesn't seem happy at school. Today the kids tried to push her down on the bus and because she's a strong athlete she was able to hold her ground against the bully on the bus..I am just so tired of this bullying thing. Kids are mean (or meaner than when I was growing up 25 years ago!)

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Gardensparrow - posted on 09/09/2015

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I'm so glad to hear she had a better day and was able to connect with some kids. And it can take time for children to truly feel comfortable in their surroundings. But it sounds like she's off to a good start this year! :)

Shannon - posted on 09/04/2015

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Thanks for the advice. Today seemed to be a better day as I told her to look at the world a little more positive and open up to new people so she did and had lunch with a bunch of kids.. (Girls and boys) her best friend moved a way 5000 miles a few years back and she never has made a new connection at school since. At sports, all the kids love her so I know that it's not her personality it's just at school this is happening so thanks everyone for your thoughts and prayers.

Tonia - posted on 09/04/2015

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You know, not everyone needs to have 50 friends.. or even 2 friends. One is enough. Me, I homeschool my kids. Public schools are nothing but indoctrination centers (no, I'm not exaggerating) and full of bullies.

Gardensparrow - posted on 09/04/2015

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Oh, I'm so sorry. My heart goes out out to you and your little girl. Do you think maybe it would help to have her speak with a counselor (maybe even one at the school if they have it)? Perhaps they'd have some insight to offer on helping her connect at school. But I'll be keeping her in my prayers, that this year will be a new start for her with lots of great friends.

Shannon - posted on 09/03/2015

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Thanks for the advise. No I have not talked to anyone this year at her school. She is very athletic and I have her in soccer in fall and she plays a spring sport too.. She has many friends at sports but none that go to her school. She just feels so alone and I see depression setting in. She opens up to me and cries and i just don't know what to do about the isolation at school. It breaks my heart as she really is a gentle and sweet girl and just wants a good friend..

Gardensparrow - posted on 09/03/2015

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Hi Shannon~
Well, I totally understand it breaks your heart when your kids are being bullied, and I'm so sorry your sweet daughter is going through this. Have you had a chance to talk with the school about what happened on the bus? This is definitely something you want to nip in the bud, as bullying can get out of hand quickly (if you're interested, there's an article that talks a bit more about this here: http://bit.ly/1iklO75). Also, if you're having a hard time getting your daughter to talk with you about how she's feeling, is there a school counselor at her school? Maybe they could give you a better idea of why your daughter is struggling-if it's due to bullying or any other issues. Lastly, if you feel things are bad enough and it's just the school causing problems, could you look into some other schooling options for your daughter? Or are there some extracurricular activities at your daughter's school she could get involved with. Sometimes that's a good way to connect with your schoolmates. So, just some thoughts to consider. Hope they help!

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