My daughter is very social, however she will cry and scream and hold on to me every morning when I drop her off to day care although it's been a month. It only took her 1 week to adapt at her previous day care. should i be concerned?

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Belinda - posted on 02/07/2012

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You are most welcome Nora. Here is something else to mention: Watching cartoons is not going to help her fall asleep! In fact it will do just the opposite. She should not be watching tv at all this young. http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archiv...



When watching tv, some people respond by falling asleep, but your body really doesn't get the relaxing deep sleep that it needs. Your child may be someone who does not get relaxed watching tv (even if she was, I would not encourage her to fall asleep this way.)



Good Luck talking to the Provider - you may need to find another if she does not listen to your concerns.



here is another link on the effects of children watching tv :)

http://seattlemamadoc.seattlechildrens.o...

Nora - posted on 02/07/2012

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Thanks Belinda...your response was great. I too take issue with the fact that she doesn't nap at all. I'm told that while the other kids sleep, my Bella is allowed to just lay down in the hopes that she'll fall asleep watching cartoons. It worked only once for 1/2 hour I was told...Going to address this with the care giver since she appears to be okay with the fact that she's eaten well all day and her suggestion every day is to 'give her a bottle if she doesn't want to eat cause she's probably tired'. Of course as you say I don't get to spend any time with Bella when she gets home. And on occasion when she doesn't go to bed right away she's so cranky and disruptive that I have to put her down because she's exhausted.



thanks again for your comment Bellinda. This really helps!!!

Belinda - posted on 02/07/2012

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Hi Nora, Nikki has some good points, also remember that your child is probably going through some separation anxiety, this is a developmental stage. You could consider giving her something special ( a blanket or something) when you leave so she can have something of you on her when you go. Do as Nikki suggests and peak through the window to make sure she does calm down. However I have a feeling that you will find that she does calm down quickly. Someone once told me that the best way to say goodbye if your child is going through this is to say goodbye, give them a hug and a kiss (or whatever your routine is ) and then leave quickly. Prolonging it only makes it worse.



My biggest concern would be why isn't she napping? THis is vitally important for a child of her age. You may find that once she gets some good naps in the crying improves, especially as she will get to spend time with you in the evenings! Also When my daughter turned 27 months old she began going crazy some mornings, not wanting to change out of her dirty diaper, or get dressed into clothes etc.She would scream the house down . this was on days that she was staying home too. A friend of mine says that her 2.5 year old does the same thing, so that part of the equation may be another aspect of toddlerhood.



Good Luck!

Nora - posted on 02/07/2012

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Hi Nikki,



Thank you so much for your comment. I just wonder why she only went through this for a week at the most at her previous home care provider and it's stll going on with this one for over a month?? Concerned that she just doesn't like this home....I guess I'll try to do what you recommend. Listen at the door or find a way to peek and see if in fact she quiets down after I leave. I feel horrible when I have to peel her off of me.. :-(



I'll be sure to post an update...thanks again!

Nikki - posted on 02/07/2012

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My son is almost 3 and he is the same way from the second he wakes up he throws a fit about going to daycare the car ride hes mad and when he gets there he cries. But they say he only cries for a minute or two I stayed one day and watched from outside and it was true, within 2 mins he was off playing. When i pick him up he never wants to leave we end up staying there for quite sometime. He eats very well and sleeps very well there so Im very happy. He just simply enjoys staying home with me and his dad. I hated going to school and I hated waking up in the mornings so thats the only thing i believe he feels the same. If your daughter is falling asleep the second she gets home then its completely understandable she misses you, shes at school all day then she sees you and passes out so it only makes sense she cries in the morning for you, but all kids go through a stage like that where they cry when you drop them off and Ive watched with my own eyes it does only last a couple mins

Nora - posted on 02/07/2012

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Hi Belinda,



She'll be 2 on March 27th. I've never been there long enough to see how she spends her day; however the woman who runs the day care (it's really a group day care since she hasn't turned 2 yet) says she only cries a bit longer once I leave and she takes her and conforts her a bit, then once she's quieted she puts her down and my daughter goes off to play. She eats very well I'm told, however she never naps, so when I pick her up I race home to give her dinner before she falls asleep on me. Sadly lately she's either asleep when we get home, so she misses dinner. Sleeps until the next morning. Otherwise she's so tired that dinner time doesn't go well because she's tired. The day care always says "she ate very well so if she doesnt' want to eat dinner today, don't worry since she ate well all day. A bottle of mild should do it for today". She did take naps at the previous group home though. She's being potty trained as well. She's thrilled when she sees me and says goodbye and sometimes even blows kisses to the day care provider when we leave. But the next day she refuses to get out of the car or stroller and cries and screams as soon as she sees the house. On many occassions she doesn't want to get dressed or leave our house in the morning because she knows we're going to day care. On weekends I have a difficult time getting her dressed and out the door because she thinks we're going to daycare.

Belinda - posted on 02/07/2012

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How old is your daughter?

How does she spend the rest of her time at daycare? and what is she like when you pick her up?

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