My daughter is volient

Maryanne - posted on 02/24/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Today i had a really bad day. My daughter can be very voilent and im beyond words now. I recorded some of the conversations on a record just so i have proof that she says the things that she says. My daughter spit in my face and throw a pair of scissors across the room and it just missed me. Im beyond words and im limited on resources around me. i need help. I listen to her tell me that every one hates me, no one wants to be in my life, no one cares for me..she just went on and on with the unkind words. I dont even speak to her like that.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/25/2014

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I agree with Jodi, and I'd also like to add this: The girl didn't just "do" this once she turned 18. There were behaviours prior to that.

But, as Jodi said, if the girl is 18, she's an adult, and you can't force a thing. If she can not act the adult, and handle her situations as such, including respecting the home in which she's living, and the people residing there with her, its time for tough love.

Kick her out, and limit contact. Make your conditions simple. She gets help for her anger, and any other problems. When she can approach you on an adult level, you will consider meeting with her.

Maryanne - posted on 02/25/2014

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thank you for your response. yes it is. she is disrespectful. I my need to make some sound discissions and not be apart of her life any more.

Jodi - posted on 02/25/2014

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OK, that's tough if she is 18 years old. After all, she is an adult. You can't force her into counselling. The only thing I can suggest is that if you feel unsafe, you need to ask her to leave. It is your house, she needs to live by your rules. She needs to understand that if she can't do that, she can't live there. One of those rules is treating each other respectfully.

Maryanne - posted on 02/25/2014

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Thank you for your reply Jody. my daughter is 18 yrs old. I feel that she is at risk myself. I have had my daughter changed 2 twice already and the court dismissed/dropped both cases. its so fustrating when you try to get the help she needs and no one has any interest. My daughter is a great liar and she is really good at making people feel that its my fault. I have to record, jounral every situation with her because she denies it. I try so hard to refrain from hitting her back because of who i am she goes around and tells everyone that she wiped my ass. its a evil cycle and i hate being apart of it. I have tried reaching out to the school no help. So i dont know what else to do.

Jodi - posted on 02/24/2014

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How old is your daughter? Your daughter sounds like she is extremely at risk, and is clearly having issues where she needs to see a professional. If you are not sure where to start, the school counsellor can be a great resource - you can at least get some help for her and whatever referrals may be required.

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