My daughter lies about the most horrible things. I dont know what to do.

Teresa - posted on 01/31/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




My daughter has lied about being raped. She told her friends the story with lots of details about how she had to identify the person in a line up. Once it came out that it was a lie she wanted to change schools because her firends didnt want to speak to her. I did not let her change schools. Now she has done it again. This time she has told people that she has cancer. I also found on her laptop where she has opened up a second facebook account where she is saying she is someone else and posting things back and forth to herself between her two accounts. Some of it is really really bad. I really thought after all the fall out last time she wouldnt do this again. Im so worried I dont know why she is doing this, and I dont know how I can make her understand how bad this is.


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Linda - posted on 01/31/2012




13 is a hard age. It seems to me that she wants attention...and she'll take it any way she can get it. Perhaps she feels she is ignored too school or at home. However, the extremity of the lying seems beyond the norm...and I would definitely get her into counseling. If she keeps seeking attention the wrong way, she will make some very bad decisions in the next 10 years.

Teresa - posted on 01/31/2012




She is 13 no signs of mental illness. As far as i know she doesnt lie to me. And we did have a seriuod conversation when the entire rape thing came to light. I reallt though she would not do this again becasue it was so painful last time. She lost friends and cried but know i just dont know she does see a doctor for ADHD and we have an appointment tonight so I will bring this up there. I dont know what to believe any more is she lying to me wow after this idk

Tara - posted on 01/31/2012




How old is she?

Have you spoken to a doctor about this?

Has anything happened in her life that would cause her to seek attention like this?

Does she have any other signs of mental illness?

How is she outside of school? Does she lie to family and neighbours etc. or is just a school thing?

Need more info. but I would seriously be having a conversation with her about trust and why lying regardless of the reason is unacceptable. She clearly feels a need to draw attention and pity to herself. She wants people to feel sorry for her, it's your job to figure out why. Talk to her family doctor or school counsellor etc.

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