my daughter loves the cell phone so much that i think it's really disracting her with her studies, what can i do to help her. at one time i took her phone from her and it was like her world is crashing.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/17/2011

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Taking her phone from her completely may not be the whole answer. Taking it during study time might be the key. I don't know how old she is, but she must learn studies come before cell phone and friend time. Say she gets home at 3, I would take it from 3:30-6 so she has solid time to do her studies. Or, she can simply get it back once homework is done. BUT, she may lie just to get her phone back....so to start, give her a time slot. Also, you can be in touch with the teachers to find out how much she has per night, and how long it should take to complete. That way you have a better idea what time slot to take it for. Good luck!

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Kelly - posted on 10/17/2011

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The best thing you can do is talk to her about responsibility and also adictions. These kids these days are really getting addicted to phones and electronics. they take over their lives to the point of failing in other areas. "Addiction can also be viewed as a continued involvement with a substance or activity despite the negative consequences associated with it. An abnormal psychological dependency on things." Also if you are footing the bill for college then you can set some expectations for grades. If they are not met then you can stop the funding. That may get her attention to manage her time better. If a C average or above is reasonable or B average if she is capable of it. She drops below and you can decide to drop funding for that class or altogether. Make sure your expectations are clear and that you follow through. Please do not be one of those parents that threatens and doesn't follow through. That does more damage than good!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/17/2011

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I take back a lot of what I said. Do not speak to her professors about her homework situation. I really thought she was a teen. In college, they are expected to act like adults. She really needs to take care of this on her own, but it sounds like she could use your guidance.

Tcordukes - posted on 10/17/2011

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If she is 20 i don't thnk there is really too much you can do at the end of the day she is an adult. Maybe talk to her about how important it is for her to work hard at her studies and that it might be an idea to turn the phone off for a few hours a day so she can study and focus. Also even though she is an adult if she lives in your house she still needs to respect your house rules and maybe make a rule that everyone sticks to of no phones in the evening or something like that.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/17/2011

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Oh Jeesh...I thought she was a high school student. At that point, she is an adult, she may have to figure this one out on her own. Is she passing all of her courses? Maybe just sit and talk with her about the cell phone use. Is she paying for it on her own, or are you?

Norah - posted on 10/17/2011

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thanks ladies, my daughter is 20 years and she is doing a Diploma in Adverting.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/17/2011

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Also, check her homework when she is done. Do this all in a friendly manner, not as a strict disciplinarian. Have open communication with her about the "why" factor.

Tcordukes - posted on 10/17/2011

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how old is your daughter? if its distracting her then take it off her tell her if sge wants it back she needs to improve her study and she can have it back. she will survive without a phone.

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