My daughter mixes with loser friends and i do not like any of them!

Wadrgurlz - posted on 10/03/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hey Moms, My daughter 24 has the sweetest personalities, she is caring upon others and holds a good job, her last two bf were bad boys that took advantage of her heart, while meeting a new circle of friend thro the bf, but now, every weekend there is always problems with all of them including my girl. I believe she is going down hill and I hate seeing this and hearing all the drama with them all, It is totally outrageous. they talk about one another, rip off 1another, argue, never have any money, they don't work, and that annoys me the most, I've picked her up numerous times due to drama and I know my girl isn't Miss perfect either, I am so angry that she calls these idiots friends! and things get worst. I am so disappointed with her. if only she had real friends with jobs and direction. she feels sorry for to many people. has anyone had the same experience I would love to hear. thank you.

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Jodi - posted on 10/03/2015

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Holding your anger in is not healthy either. You need to learn to let it go. Perhaps some counselling will help with that?

Wadrgurlz - posted on 10/03/2015

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thank you for that,, I haven't been expressing my anger out about her friends to her, I hold it all in. we do have a close relationship and when I see these friends or hear about things that have happened i get wild. I do shut my mouth and hold that frustration to myself. yes we do have to learn. I would just like to see her with positive friends and I just get worried. I have been supportive for her when she needs me. I have to learn to have more faith. yes. Thank you ladies

Ev - posted on 10/03/2015

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I had to agree with Jodi on her post. Your daughter is an adult and she is learning how to make choices good and bad. You did that when you were her age. We all do that at that age and even as we get older we still make wrong choices. That is the way of life. Voicing things is a good way to push her away and closer to these bad friends. Be supportive of her in other ways and things, be there for her when she needs you and just remember that you raised her with the things you thought necessary for her to live life. If she is this sweet thing and can not stand for seeing others suffering or on hard times, its a good thing and a bad thing. My own daughter used to be that way. She did not want to do things that made everyone upset and also did things to please everyone. She had to learn that you just can not please everyone all the time. In your daughter's case she will have to learn that though she can feel sorry for them, she can not always help them or be their friend. Its a lesson she has to learn on her own.

Jodi - posted on 10/03/2015

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You need to stop getting angry about it. You have no control over this situation and never will have - she is an adult. Anger is a wasted emotion and is only distressing you. You also should be careful expressing these feelings to your daughter. All you can do is be there for her should she need you, but her decisions are hers to own. Have faith in the fact that you have raised her well and she will land on her feet okay.

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